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Wednesday 31 August 2022

How to be More Optimistic and Positive in Life

 Are you prone to thinking negative thoughts about circumstances, other people, and even yourself? Do you sometimes feel life is hopeless because it seems you have run out of luck and everything you do fails? You are probably struggling with pessimism, and if you do not overcome this soon, it will hinder you from achieving your goals.Having an optimistic outlook is necessary if you want to see the positive side of life even in bad situations. True, we cannot control the circumstances around us, but at least we can do something about our response to each. Like what they say, happiness is a choice—well, so is being positive.

Tips to optimism

Here are some tips that can help you be more positive even when all you see around is negativity. Hopefully, these help you change your perspective in life as they have helped me:

1. Count your blessings.

Sometimes, we tend to focus on what we do not get, so we feel empty. However, if you look around and be thankful for every little good thing you have, you will feel better. Instead of feeling bad because of what you cannot have or have not achieved YET, focus on the blessings you received.For instance, you may have no boyfriend or girlfriend and it makes you feel unlovable, but if you focus your attention on your family or friends who are always there for you, then you will realize you’re actually overflowing with love.Also, you may envy your friends who can buy the latest gadgets they want and all you can afford is a pre-owned mobile phone, but if you concentrate on the fact that the basic reason why you need a phone is communication, then you will be thankful enough that at least you can use something to text or call your loved ones.Instead of hating yourself for having no budget to eat in luxurious restaurants, be grateful that you can eat three times a day. Remember, some would be too happy to find leftovers just to fill their hungry stomachs.

2. Do not compare your achievements to others’.

Comparison is the top culprit that makes you insecure. If you keep on making the lives of others the standard for yours, you will always see what you do not have. I will be specific about not comparing your achievements to what others have attained. Life is not a race, so there is no need to be ahead when aiming for success.Before, I would feel bad that my batchmates are already titleholders, and I am not. Some are already doctors, lawyers, and managers. Many have finished their master’s degree, and some are on their doctorate already.

Me? I wasted my scholarship for my masters and dropped my courses when the semester was ending. At first, I felt bad, but now I am grateful I did that because I was actually half-hearted when I enrolled (just for the sake of getting the scholarship offered at work). Now, I have a clearer idea of what I want to pursue, and I am glad I have not wasted years on something I did not really want.Others may think it would be late for me to get a stable profession, but hey, I believe life is not all about stability. I can study even in my thirties’ or forties’. And as long as I am not jobless, I can save for my retirement, right? At least I am able to explore many exciting things about this world, meet different kinds of people, and create memories that someday would make fine stories for my grandchildren. And that is a success for me.It probably took you years before you could proceed or finish college. Or maybe until now you are still undecided of what kind of career to take. My advice is to stop tracking the pace of other people, and focus on your own path so you will not stumble. Do not make their timetable your own timeline. Create one for yourself, and you will reach your dream at your own time, minus the frustrations caused by envying others.

3. Always have an inspiration.

Do you know why people in love are usually motivated to work hard? It is because they have loved ones to dedicate their accomplishments. Students want to graduate from college on time because they want to get a job, make their parents proud, and repay their hard work. A single mother gets two or three jobs to give her kid a comfortable life. A husband and father always work overtime to buy his family’s dream house soon. All of them do not mind going through hard times because they are doing it for the people important to them.Look for inspirations around you. Or maybe you already have, but sometimes you forget them when you are bombarded by pressure. Every time you feel like quitting, remember the people who matter to you. Would they be happy when you give up? Or how about those who depend on you? What would happen to them?Remember who or what drove you to pursue your achievements now. When you wake up every day, remind yourself of them so that you will be motivated to give your best effort in what you do.

4. See failures as stepping stones to success.

Failure is part of life, so do not be easily discouraged when it gets in your way once in a while. All successful people have experienced failure too. However, they did not give up on what they want to accomplish. They tried and tried until they got them.Changing your perspective about failure can help you get closer to success. Every time you fail, cry if you may, but do not think it is final. Learn from the experience, and use it to prepare yourself for trying next time. Turn the lesson into knowledge, and turn that knowledge into skills.For example, you have probably failed job interviews many times. Instead of being discouraged from looking for a job, take note of what the interviewers say to you. Some would give advice or hints of what you need to improve on. If they say you need to work on your communication skills, then do something about that. Practice expressing your thoughts in writing or speaking at home or attend communication workshops or training.

5. Unwind once in a while.

Too much stress at work, studies, or home can make you a pessimist. Therefore, give yourself a break from time to time. Do something that you love doing or be in touch with nature.Going to the beach and soaking in the sun is one good suggestion. You can also go hiking or walking in a park—or the woods for the thrill. Why not go on holiday to a far island or visit your hometown? Mother Earth has a way of soothing us with her breathtaking beauty.If you are not a nature-lover, you can find other activities that can make you relax. Go shopping or pamper yourself with a body spa and massage. You may also have a makeover. If you love eating, eat in your favorite restaurant or have a cheat day on your diet.Relaxing can calm your mind from problems. It recharges both your physical and inner strength. This breaks you away from the negative situations in your life and makes you see that there are still good things happening around you.

Look at the bright side

Too much pessimism can give you wrinkles. It also drains you of energy and joy. That is why help yourself see the bright side of things. No matter how big your problems are, it is not the end of the world yet. Give time to appreciate the good things around you. It will also give you hope to try harder and search for other opportunities.

Cyril Abello

Sunday 28 August 2022

Eating This for 2 Months Can Add Years to Your Life, New Study Finds

 Eight weeks of this diet, exercise, sleep, and supplement regimen will keep you young.

People have long looked for miracle elixirs and magical diets to help keep them healthy into old age, and a recent study seems to have found just that. The new research out of the Helfgott Research Institute at the National University of Natural Medicine found that a specific combination of foods can add more than three years to your life in just eight weeks. While a regimented diet is essential, the researchers found, their two-month program also consisted of sleep, exercise, and supplement guidelines that promote longevity, too.The study, which was published in the journal Aging in April, included 43 healthy adult men between 50 and 72 years old; 21 of them followed the diet, exercise, sleep, stress management, and supplement regimen and 22 acted as the control group.Lead author Kara Fitzgerald, ND, explained in a statement that the program "was designed to target a specific biological mechanism called DNA methylation and in particular the DNA methylation patterns that have been identified as highly predictive of biological age." The term "DNA methylation patterns" refers to "the accumulation of damage and loss of function to our cells, tissues, and organs," which is believed to be the driving force behind aging, the researchers explain."What is extremely exciting is that food and lifestyle practices, including specific nutrients and food compounds known to selectively alter DNA methylation, are able to have such an impact on those DNA methylation patterns we know predict aging and age-related disease," said Fitzgerald. To see what you should be eating and doing to add 3.23 years to your life, read on.

The diet allows you to eat a variety of food but it's very specific.

The researchers configured a very specific diet for participants in the treatment group to follow during the eight-week study. Each week, they had to eat nine ounces of liver and five to 10 eggs.The diet was also heavy in vegetables, with participants consuming the following each day: two cups of dark leafy greens (like kale, spinach, and collards); two cups of cruciferous vegetables (like broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts); three cups of colorful vegetables (but not white potatoes or sweetcorn); and one or two beets.Participants also ate four tablespoons of pumpkin seeds and four tablespoons of sunflower seeds or their respective butters every day. On top of that, they were told to consume one serving of methylation adaptogens, which could come in the form of half a cup of berries, half a teaspoon of rosemary, half a teaspoon of turmeric, two medium cloves of garlic, two cups of green tea, or three cups of oolong tea. Lastly, participants had to pack in six ounces of grass-fed, pastured, organic, and hormone/antibiotic-free animal protein and two servings of low glycemic fruit (like strawberries, apples, and peaches).The diet also came with general guidance to get organic food whenever possible; stay hydrated; use "healthy" oils (like coconut, olive, flaxseed, and pumpkin seed oil); balance different types of fat; and avoid added sugar, dairy, grains, and legumes. Additionally, participants were advised not to eat between 7 p.m. and 7 a.m. Researchers also asked them to minimize their use of plastic food containers, which can cause you to ingest chemicals that negatively affect your health.

Exercising for at least two and a half hours per week is also key.

Exercising was another crucial part of the eight-week regimen. Participants in the treatment group were prescribed a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise daily for at least five days a week, totaling two and a half hours weekly.And the workouts couldn't be phoned in, either—each exercise session had to be at an intensity of 60 to 80 percent of "maximum perceived exertion."

Two specific daily supplements were another important part of the plan.

In accordance with the regimen, those in the treatment group also took one serving  of PhytoGanix®, "a combination of organic vegetables, fruits, seeds, herbs, plant enzymes, prebiotics, and probiotics," twice a day.They were also prescribed two capsules of UltraFlora® Intensive Care; it contains the probiotic Lactobacillus plantarum, which increases good bacteria in your gut.

The regimen also enforced seven hours of sleep on average and a specific breathing exercise.

Sleep is just as important as diet and exercise when it comes to your health. The men in the treatment group were instructed to average a minimum of seven hours of sleep per night.Additionally, they were directed to engage in a specific stress management technique. Twice daily, they were instructed to use the breathing exercise "The Relaxation Response," created by Herbert Benson, MD, which involves six steps, according to Massachusetts General Hospital. Throughout the exercise, you sit quietly, close your eyes, relax all your muscles, breathe through your nose, and say the word "one" silently each time you breathe out. You repeat this process for 10 to 20 minutes.

Allie Hogan

Friday 26 August 2022

52 Ways to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Loved, Special and Giddy

 A girl needs to know she’s loved and appreciated every day. Never let a day go by that you don’t do or say something that’ll let her know how much you love her. Probably one of the questions that haunt the minds of many guys out there is… how to make their girlfriend feel loved?

To answer that query, I am here to share with you some simple ways so you can be the champion of her heart.

16 Ways to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Loved

1. Compliment her.

A compliment that comes from your special someone means more to her than one from a stranger. But of course, you don’t have to lie just to make her feel loved, the memorable ones don’t have to come from a skilled poet or be overly flattering. Instead, choose your words wisely and be honest so that the compliment seems sincere and not too exaggerated.

2. Free your time just to be with her.

Letting her know that she is your priority reminds her how much you care and love her. “Too busy” is just a myth because if someone really matters to you, you won’t make excuses but rather, you’ll make time just to be with that special person.

3. Leave her a note with sweet messages.

Show your girlfriend how much you love and care for her by sending her notes like “You look beautiful today” or “Your smile brightens up my day.” It only takes a few seconds to do it and it will immediately brighten up her day.

4. Encourage and support her.

One of the easiest ways to be supportive is to be encouraging. Always let her know that you think she can do something, and encourage her to pursue things that can make her feel happy. Hearing words like “you can do that”, “it’s okay not to be okay”, or “you’re not alone” can push her to do things she badly wants, in times she feels like giving up.

5. Surprise her.

Girls love surprises but they aren’t always looking for huge and expensive gifts. Instead, they long for little acts of kindness in a simple surprise that can make them feel happy and loved.Get her little “somethings”, like bringing her roses or her favorite chocolates. Take her a good dinner or prepare a meal for her. You can also plan an outing together since girls like to have a day out with their special someone. Well, whatever you decide always put love and effort into everything you do.

6. Be faithful.

Avoiding temptations and strengthening your relationship will help you make your girl feel loved. Never stare at other girls around because your girl is very sharp to catch it. Also, don’t set yourself up for failure by spending time with someone you would otherwise be attracted to. Instead, keep your eyes only on her and be busy looking for new ways to love your own.

7. Tell and show how much you love her.

A simple “I love you” can make her feel happy but the act of demonstrating love is another way to make her feel loved. Run some errands for her, pamper her with food, go on a vacation with her, buy her favorite book, or leave her little sweet notes like what I’ve mentioned in #3. Also, don’t forget small meaningful touches like holding her hands, hugs and kisses.Remember that you can tell how much you love her as much as you want, but if your actions do not reflect your words, she won’t feel any better.

8. Truly listen to her.

When you can truly listen to your girlfriend’s feelings, you make it safe for her to express herself because the more she is able to do it, the more she feels heard, understood, and loved. Thus, take interest in listening carefully when she is talking to you, show response, get involved in the conversation, and never interrupt.

9. Respect her.

Respect isn’t all about opening doors, pulling out chairs, or carrying things for her. Be that guy who’s willing to listen to her opinions, give her your honesty, and respect her decisions despite your different perspectives.

10. Express your sincere gratitude.

Letting your girlfriend know how much you appreciate everything she does for you, is the same as expressing how much you love her. Her compliments and acts of kindness towards you deserve gratitude in return. So, as much as possible don’t forget to say “Thank you” either by telling her personally or showing it.

11. Be open and honest to her.

If you want her to feel loved, keep your doors and windows wide open. Tell her anything and everything with no secrets and lies.

12. Help her solve her problems.

Be that guy who’s willing to be her savior, hero or angel in disguise. Not someone who will leave her in times she’s trouble. Make yourself available, be there to comfort her, make the burden light, and gently be the solution to resolving her problem.

13. Make sacrifices.

Sacrifice your precious time, privacy, and some personal ambitions. Shallow your pride and give up your ego just to make your relationship work and make her happy. Be patient and deal with your partner’s emotional outbursts and temperament no matter how hard it is. And always remember that you’re in a partnership — your relationship, not only yourself, should be your priority.

14. Don’t give up on her (and your relationship).

Don’t lose hope during times of trouble. Think of all the things that you’ve been through together— the happiness and sorrow you experienced. Remind yourself the reasons why you love her, why you should keep holding on, and why you need to fight for her and your relationship.

15.  Obey her.

“If you love me, keep my commands. – John 14:15

Girls are hurt when you try to ignore their rebukes. If she says “No” it means “No” so, be willing to follow and respect her orders because she’s only doing it for your own good. Make her feel truly loved by following her good commandments, such as living a healthy lifestyle, breaking bad habits and vices, working hard for the future and, of course, avoiding acts of cheating.

16. Let her know she’s part of your life.

Include her in your plans and life’s decisions. Show her that you’re thinking about her, not only in the short run but also in the long run. Take her on your journey and grow together while you’re in a relationship. And finally, show her that you are serious and doing something to be ready to marry her and spend the rest of your life with her when the right time has come.

24 Tips to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

1. Be honest with her.

When love is real, you don’t have any reason to lie, cheat, pretend, hurt, or make the other person feel unwanted. Speak truth to your girlfriend as much as you are able, with clarity, love, respect and gentleness. This will not only make her feel special but also help you reinforce the strength of the connection in your relationship.

2. Compliment her in an honest way.

Giving compliments isn’t just a way to get someone’s attention; it is also an easy way to make someone feel good and special about herself. Don’t just tell her how gorgeous she is, or how amazing her hair looks like but rather, tell her what you really feel inside while looking into her eyes.

3. Don’t take her for granted.

Don’t take your woman for granted, it’s the small things that make her feel special. As much as possible make time for her, appreciate her, and acknowledge her presence all the time.

4. Make time for her.

Every girl feels special when you make time and prioritize her in your life. Making time for the girl you treasure the most also helps her feel important, cared for, and loved.

5. Keep your eyes on her.

If you really want your girl to feel special, then don’t stare at every girl that comes in the room. Instead, keep your eyes only on her and let her know that she’s the only girl you’re interested in.

6. Continue to court and date her.

Courtship and dating don’t end when you finally get her sweet “yes”. In fact, a guy must always court and date his girl if he wants to keep her special, happy and in love with him. Buy her simple gifts, prove to her that chivalry isn’t dead – by opening doors or pull out a chair for her, write letters for her, or plan a romantic date with her.

7. Tell and show how much you love and value her every day.

It isn’t hard to tell her “I love you” or how much you treasure her every time you’re together. But of course, you shouldn’t just tell but also show how much you adore her. You can always show love to her by spoiling her with food, listening to her, giving hugs and kisses, support her, or make simple surprises for her.

8. Listen to her.

Some girls are talkative, they like to talk things out and vent out loud. A simple act of listening makes her feel special because she knows that someone is listening to her, though you can’t relate to it.

9. Ask what she likes.

Since you can’t read minds, it is important to ask what your girl wants. Ask her what food she likes, what color she prefers, or what drink she likes better. This will mean so much to her because you value her decisions and ask her opinions in every choice you make.

10. Respect her decisions.

Respect in every aspect of life is important as love in a relationship. When she says “No” it means NO, so respect it and don’t insist to do things that is against her will. Each of us has different opinions and beliefs. Thus, learn to be open-minded and see things from different perspectives.

11. Give her hugs.

Girls love hugs because they feel safe and special in the arms of their significant other.

12. Plan small surprises.

When it comes to keeping your girl special and happy, it is often the little things that matter the most. Most girls love it when their guy takes the time to plan small surprises for them like giving her flowers, sending her love notes, or get her favorite treat.

13. Don’t make her wait.

Don’t make your girl wait for too long just because you’re still in the office doing stuff, or you still have an important thing to do in your house, this is just a clear sign that you don’t value her time as much as she values yours. Instead, be that guy who’s willing to wait for her even though it takes an hour before she dresses up.

14. Create new experiences together.

Doing things she wants to experience or going to places she badly wants to visit, shows how special she is to you because you value what’s important to her.

15. Be proud of her and your relationship.

It shows how happy and contented you are to have her in your life. However, it isn’t always about posting your sweet photos together on social media or publicly displaying affection wherever you go. Take note that some girls prefer a more private love life. Hence, you also have to consider the privacy and intimacy of your relationship before you start bragging about her and your relationship.

16. Call or text her for no reason.

It is such a great feeling to receive a call or text from someone special for no apparent reason; it only shows that you do remember her despite your hectic schedule.

17. Ask how her day went.

A simple “how are you?” or asking details about how her day went only shows that you care about her.

18. Never compare her to your Exes.

Comparing your present girlfriend to your past isn’t a good idea if you want to make her feel special. Girls don’t like the thought of you still stuck in the past. If you badly want to make her feel special, then don’t tell her she’s the best, but rather, let her know that she’s the only one.

19. Comfort her when she’s not feeling well.

When she’s sick and cut off from her daily life, a simple hug, visit or call reminds her that she is remembered by her special someone. Also, she’ll feel much better to have his guy by her side when she needs someone to comfort her.

20. Support her passions in life.

When couples can support each other’s passion, it helps foster a sense of being loved for who you are, and feel special because you have someone by your side to support your dreams in life.

21. Remember important dates.

Girls feel less important once their special someone forgets anniversaries, birthdays, or monthsaries. This only shows that you don’t care about the important dates that matter to her. So write it down or set it on a reminder on your phone and make sure to never forget about it when her special days come.

22. Show her that you fully trust her.

In a relationship, honesty and trust must exist. If you want her to trust you, do the same to her. Set an example to her, give her privacy, and be open to her, so she will feel special towards herself too.

23. Admit and apologize when you make mistakes.

When you know it is your mistake, lower your pride, don’t be afraid to admit it and apologize to her. In this way, you will make her feel special because she knows you respect her and value your relationship.

24. Make her part of your life.

Don’t just tell her how special she is; instead, show her by letting her become part of your life. Include her in every decision you make and set goals you both want to achieve in the future.

12 Little Things that Make Girls Feel Giddy

Girls are actually simple. The things or gestures that every guy does, be it little or big will make their hearts melt like they’ve been set on fire. But! Yes, there is a “but”. You won’t know if they like it or not because you will not hear a compliment or a single word from them. They will have to deal with “what if’s”. Hesitations, second thoughts and fear will be their enemy. They’ll feel it if you’re genuine or not. You can’t trick them but you can be sincere. Make them feel wanted and special instead. Know what makes girls feel giddy by reading this inspiring article.

1. Be chivalrous

Show her chivalry is not yet dead. Hold the door open for her or pull a seat out for her. Learn to treat her like your queen. She’ll definitely love your courteous side.

2. Little messages and sweet talks

Simple text messages or unexpected calls could make her smile knowing that you are taking time out of your day to think about her.

3. Get along with her friends and family

To a girl, family and friends mean everything. They know every single detail of her life, she listens and takes their opinions seriously. So make an effort to be closer to her family and she’ll be delighted to see your sincerity.

4. Be true to her

Only by being truly honest, you can show how you deeply care for her. Women highly appreciate honest men, it’s a rare quality that they find attractive. Be yourself when you’re with her.

5. Compliment her

Compliments can be extra effective when it comes from the heart but don’t just tell her she’s beautiful, make her feel beautiful. Don’t just state the obvious. It’s not about what you say to her, it’s about how you treat her.

6. Make something for her

Write her a poem or a song, draw her a picture or a card, cook her a special dinner, and give her a flower you just picked anywhere or whatever it is. It doesn’t have to cost a thing as long as it shows effort and deep affection, she’ll feel butterflies.

7. Make her feel secure

By caring and protecting her physically and emotionally shows how you value her and it makes her trust you more.

8. Little gestures

Take her into your arms when she’s afraid, kiss her forehead or her hand, walk with her hand on hand, brush her hair away from her face and even back hugs could be something for her. There is no girl in the world who wouldn’t fall for someone who is willing to shower her with overwhelming amounts of love and undivided attention.

(Note: If you are not yet in a relationship be careful with your actions. Some gestures may not apply to all girls. Know your limits.)

9. Cheesy lines

It may sound pathetic but the cheesiness would make her smile and definitely would make her heart leap.

10. Loyalty

Being loyal is a must. It’s a total plus point. Keep your eyes on her, let her know that she is the one you are interested in.

11. Show patience

Respect her decisions. Don’t rush her. Accept her imperfections and be patient with her.

12. Remember the little things

Pay attention to little details. Take note of the important dates and her dislikes. Surprise her with some thoughtful ways to show that you remember these things about her. Don’t let the little things go unnoticed.Do these romantic little things to your favorite person wholeheartedly without strings attached. Be true to her and you will earn her trust.As the little prince quoted, “It is only by the heart that one can see things rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

Marydel Mitch Flores

Thursday 25 August 2022

100 Ways to Live to 100

 These simple tips will help you live long and prosper!

At the beginning of the 20th century, the average lifespan was 31 years; today, it's almost triple that, thanks to the cumulative effect of many, mostly minor, life tweaks that science has determined to have a real effect on longevity. The sooner you start applying these tips, the sooner you can start planning what you'll be doing 50 years from now. So, what are you waiting for? Get started on these 100 ways to live to 100!

1.Be nicer.

A 2012 study published in the journal Aging found a correlation between optimism and longer lifespans. That's right: A positive attitude toward life can be the difference between checking out early and being the last one at the party.

2.Stay on top of the news—maybe just not on TV.

While sitting on the couch all day probably won't help you make it to 100, tuning into the news just might. One 2011 study published in the International Journal of Public Health found that subjects who had the most exposure to mass media—including television news, online news, newspapers, and magazines—were more likely to follow a healthy Mediterranean diet, which, according to WebMD, has been linked to increased heart health and longevity. So it might be high time you start picking up a newspaper on your morning commute.

3.Practice yoga.

It's well-established that yoga is relaxing. But it turns out, all that relaxation can have some seriously age-defying cumulative effects. According to one Vox review of more than 50 studies, practicing yoga may improve quality of life for diabetes patients, reduce cardiovascular disease risk, and help manage high blood pressure.

4.Cut down on meat.

A 2013 study of more than 70,000 people that was published in JAMA Internal Medicine found that vegetarians have a 12 percent lower risk of premature death than meat-eaters. And while that correlation might be related to diet, the researchers also noted that vegetarians tend to be more highly educated, less likely to drink alcohol or smoke tobacco, and more likely to get a healthy amount of exercise than non-vegetarians.

5.Get married.

According to a 2013 study published in journal Annals of Behavioral Medicine, baby boomers who remain hitched are less likely to die early than their single peers. The findings were based on a survey of 4,800 people born in the 1940s.

6.Sleep naked.

Believe it or not, sleeping in the buff could help you live longer, according to one 2014 study published in the journal Diabetes. That's because as we sleep, our bodies cool slightly, causing reparative growth hormones to be released. If you're too warm, you get fewer of those hormones. Plus, being cooler reduces the body's level of cortisol, the stress hormone that can lead to overeating, diabetes, and disease-causing inflammation.

7.Laugh more.

Not only is laughing fun, but it's also good for you! One 2016 study published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine found that women with a strong sense of humor had a 73 percent lower risk of death from heart disease, an 81 percent lower risk of death from infection, and a 48 percent lower risk of death from all causes.

8.Eat nuts.

If you're nuts for nuts, you're in luck: One 2016 study published in BioMed Central found that people who eat nuts have a 39 percent lower risk of early death than people who don't; walnut eaters, in particular, have a 45 percent lower risk of dying early.

9.Be conscientious.

In their book The Longevity Project, authors Howard S. Friedman and Leslie R. Martin wrote that being conscientious was one of the best predictors of a long life. They posited that people who are diligent and responsible may be more likely to adopt healthy behaviors, may be less prone to disease, and may find more success in relationships and in the workplace than those who are more careless.

10.Try an intermittent fast.

According to a 2015 study published in the journal Rejuvenation Research, people who practiced intermittent fasting—eating for six days and fasting for one—showed an increase in a longevity-boosting gene called SIRT 3 after 10 weeks. And before you ask: The participants didn't follow a particularly healthy diet. "Feast" diets included things like Oreos, cake, and bagels with cream cheese.

11.Move to Hawaii.

A 65-year-old Hawaiian can expect to live another 16.2 years in good health. That's compared to the 10.6 years of good health that a 65 year old in Mississippi can expect, according to 2013 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

12.Lift weights.

In a 2013 study of healthy older adults published in Archives of Gerontology and Geriatrics, researchers found that 32 weeks of exercise training that focused on balance and lower-extremity muscle strength (read: weight training) helped improve participants' bone density. According to the researchers, this reinforces the idea that weight training can have positive effects on the aging process.

13.Embrace the aging process.

Turns out, embracing your age could help you live longer. One 2002 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that adults who developed positive attitudes about getting older lived more than seven years longer than those who had negative feelings about it.

14.Don't eat takeout.

It could cause you to tap out. A 2012 study published in Public Health Nutrition found that people who cook at home up to five times a week were 47 percent more likely to still be alive 10 years later than those who didn't.

15.Take a stand.

Want another reason to join the standing-desk craze? Sitting for fewer than three hours a day could add two years to your life, according to a 2012 analysis of data published in BMJ Open.

16.Turn off the TV.

According to 2012 research published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine, every hour of TV you watch after age 25 cuts your lifespan by about 22 minutes. Researchers also found that people who spent an average of six hours a day watching TV died nearly five years earlier than people who didn't watch any TV at all.

17.Walk fast.

Attention, walkers: Your pace could say quite a bit about your mortality. According to a 2019 study published in the journal Mayo Clinic Proceedings, participants who walked at a more brisk pace (three miles an hour or 100 steps a minute) lived longer than their slower counterparts. What's more, the correlation existed across all weight categories—from the underweight to the morbidly obese.

18.Consider becoming an expat.

For years, Japan has had the world's longest life expectancy (84.1 years in 2016), according to the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development. But you don't have to move too far away to experience the benefits of living abroad: Even those in Canada live an average of three years longer than Americans (81.8 years versus 78.6 years, respectively).

19.Change your altitude.

A 2011 study published in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health found that the 20 U.S. counties with the highest life expectancy had an average altitude of 5,967 feet above sea level. That added 1.2 to 3.6 years to a man's life, lowering the risk of death from heart disease.

20.Marry someone younger.

You're only as old as you feel. It's supposed to be a joke, but there may just be some truth to it—especially if you listen to 100-year-old Daisy Dunnett, who says she owes her longevity to having a younger husband. "I really think I would be dead if it was not for him," she told SWNS.com. "If you're elderly and on your own, it's easy to give up and not feed yourself properly."

21.Don't go to bed angry.

In a 2010 study of 1,700 married adults published in the PLOS Medicine journal, researchers from Brigham Young University found that the more arguing there was in a relationship, the worse the partners' health.

22.And if you get divorced, stay social.

The authors of The Longevity Project found that compared to men, divorced women tend to thrive, as do single and widowed women. Why? "Women were able to rely on other friends, whereas many men depended on their wives for their social networks and so were devastated when they lost these ties," one of the researchers said.

23.Brush and floss.

You've got more than cavities to worry about if you don't brush and floss as often as your dentist recommends. Poor oral hygiene has been associated with shortened life expectancy, according to the findings of a 2013 study published in the Journal of Dental Sciences. Maintaining a healthy mouth can lower your risk of heart disease, dementia, and stroke. So, it might be time to invest in a really good electric toothbrush.

24.Drink coffee.

Because a cup of joe is high in antioxidants, it can actually lower your risk for diabetes, liver damage, several cancers, and depression, according to a 2018 study published in the journal Progress in Cardiovascular Diseases.

25.But don't go crazy.

You'll want to drink some coffee, but definitely not too much. A long-term 2013 study published in the journal Mayo Clinic Proceedings found that those who drank an average of more than four cups of coffee a day had a 21 percent higher risk of death than those who consumed less than that amount.

26.Keep learning.

According to a 2008 Harvard University study published in the journal Health Affairs, people who stay in school for at least 12 years tend to live longer than those who don't complete high school. The research involved an analysis of data from the National Longitudinal Mortality Study.A 2012 report from the CDC's National Center for Health Statistics went even further, finding that those who earned a bachelor's degree lived nine years longer than those who only completed high school.

27.Look good.

One 2003 study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior found an association between attractiveness and longevity. Researchers asked people to rate the attractiveness of 17-year-olds from pictures taken of them in the 1920s. Those who scored higher in attractiveness lived longer—to 76, on average—than their less-attractive counterparts, who lived to an average age of 69.

28.Live in a city.

One 2013 study published in the American Journal of Preventative Medicine found that urbanites tend to live longer and stay healthier than their country-mouse counterparts. It's thought that's because those in the sticks have higher rates of cigarette use, obesity, and chronic health conditions such as diabetes and hypertension.

29.Cope with any childhood trauma.

According to a 2013 study published in the European Journal of Epidemiology, experiencing a traumatic incident as a child could actually make you more likely to die early.

30.And reframe it in a positive light.

A 2013 study published in PLOS One journal showed that male Holocaust survivors lived longer than men of the same age group who immigrated to Israel before Nazi rule. The study's authors write that this counterintuitive finding could be a display of "post-traumatic growth," leading these men to "greater meaning and satisfaction in their later lives."

31.Find your spirituality.

In a 2016 study published in JAMA Internal Medicine, researchers discovered that women who went to any kind of religious service at least once a week had a 33 percent lower chance of dying during a 16-year follow-up period than their non-religious peers.

32.Nap.

A regular short nap dramatically cuts the risk of dying from coronary heart disease, especially for working men. A massive 2007 study of nearly 24,000 people over six years published in JAMA Internal Medicine found that occasional nappers had 12 percent lower coronary mortality, while those who napped at least three times a week for at least 30 minutes had 37 percent lower mortality.

33.Eat blueberries.

More than five million Americans are estimated to have Alzheimer's disease—a number that's expected to nearly triple by 2050 if there are no significant medical breakthroughs, according to the Alzheimer's Association. But here's the thing: A 2010 study published in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry found that older adults who indulged in antioxidant-rich blueberry juice for just 12 weeks scored higher on memory tests than those receiving a placebo.

34.Eat less.

Smaller portions and less frequent overeating are just two of the reasons that the population of Okinawa, Japan, has a large concentration of centenarians, according to Dan Buettner, author of The Blue Zones: Places on Earth Where More People Live Longer, Healthier Lives.

35.Cut the sugar.

The link between increased sugar and diabetes risk is right up there with "smoking causes lung cancer." But 2015 research from the Mayo Clinic has found that added dietary fructose—either as table sugar or the main component of high-fructose corn syrup—may be the top cause of diabetes. So cutting sugar alone could slash deaths from the condition.

36.Get your omega-3s.

A 2013 study published in the journal Annals of Internal Medicine showed that older people with the highest levels of omega-3s in their blood lived 2.2 years longer (on average) than those with low omega-3 blood levels. You can find plentiful omega-3 fatty acids in fish, as well as some vegetables and seeds.

37.Volunteer.

Volunteers may live longer than people who don't give of their time—and that's something that's backed by science. One 2012 study published in the journal Health Psychology posited that people who give back could be rewarded with lower blood pressure and therefore a longer lifespan.

38.Think about death.

Several studies (like this 2018 research analysis published in Current Directions in Psychological Science) have shown that when we're reminded of our own mortality, we're more likely to make better decisions about our own health, like using sunscreen, smoking less, and exercising more.

39.Slow your resting heart rate.

A 2018 study published in the journal Heart discovered that a key predictor of long life in otherwise-healthy middle-aged and elderly men was resting heart rate—regardless of fitness level or other healthy behaviors. According to Harvard Health, you can reduce yours by exercising more, reducing stress, avoiding tobacco products, and maintaining a healthy weight.

40.Eat spinach.

Along with decreasing your risk of stroke and osteoporosis, spinach is also a rich source of plant-based omega-3s and folate, which help reduce the risk of heart disease, according to a 2015 study published in the journal Clinical Nutrition Research. Aim for one cup or fresh spinach or 1/2 cup cooked per day.

41.Always take the stairs.

A 2010 study published in the European Journal of Cardiovascular Prevention & Rehabilitation calculated that among people with a sedentary lifestyle, simply taking the stairs was enough physical activity to burn body fat and lower blood pressure—so much so that it cut their risk of early death by 15 percent.

42.Go easy on the processed meats.

A 2013 study published in the journal BMC Medicine linked a diet heavy in processed meats—like sausage and bacon—to a higher risk of dying from cancer and heart disease.

43.Work out 150 minutes per week.

Meeting or exceeding the World Health Organization's recommendation of 150 minutes of moderate exercise a week can add about four years to your life, as compared to never exercising, according to the American Heart Association.

44.Make friends at work.

A 2011 study published in the journal Health Psychology followed 820 adults for 20 years and found that those with the most social support from coworkers lived the longest. People who kept to themselves during their 9-5 shift were 2.4 times more likely to die during the study period.

45.Smile like you mean it.

For a 2010 study published in the journal Psychological Science, researchers examined smile intensity among a series of photos of baseball players from the 1950s. Those who didn't smile in their pictures lived an average of 72.9 years, while the biggest smilers lived seven full years longer.

46.Wash your hands.

The simple act of hand-washing could save more lives worldwide than any vaccine or other medical intervention, according to the CDC.

47.Run—in moderation.

According to a 2012 analysis of data presented at the European Association for Cardiovascular Prevention and Rehabilitation, a moderate jogging habit can add between five and six years to your life.But before you lace up for ultramarathon training, consider 2015 research published in the journal Mayo Clinic Proceedings. It found that people who run more than 20 miles a week, faster than seven miles an hour or more than five times a week, seem to lose that longevity boost.

48.Eat broccoli.

A 2011 study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that people who ate cruciferous vegetables, such as broccoli, cauliflower, and cabbage, tend to possess the ability to live to 100. Researchers suggest this may be tied to the veggies' vitamin C and nutrient count.

49.Find a reason to live.

A 2012 study of 1,400 senior citizens published in JAMA Psychiatry found that those who believed they were living for a reason had a 30 percent lower rate of cognitive decline than those who didn't. The belief may protect your brain from the effects of Alzheimer's disease.

50.Be rich.

Having more money in the bank means having a better chance of living to 100, according to a 2019 study published in the JAMA journal. That's because the one-percenters among us have better access to education, health care, and a lower risk of violent crime.

51.Get a pet.

Research shows that both cat and dog owners tend to live longer than their petless peers. One 2009 study published in the Journal of Vascular and Interventional Neurology found that owning a cat could cut your risk of heart attack by nearly one-third. Not only that, but a similar 2017 study published in the journal Scientific Reports found that people who owned dogs reduced their risk of death by 11 percent.

52.Get enough sleep…

According to a 2019 study published in the Journal of Sleep Research, getting fewer than six hours of sleep a night comes with a 10 percent increase in the risk of death. Studies have pinpointed seven to eight hours of shuteye as optimal.

53.…but not too much.

But long sleepers could face a 30 percent higher risk of premature death, according to a 2010 study published in the journal Sleep.

54.Have more sex.

A 2010 study of 1,165 middle-aged men published in the American Journal of Cardiology showed that having sex once a month or less is linked with a 45 percent higher risk of heart disease than having sex two to three times a week.

55.Become more religious.

According to a review of research published in 2006 in the Journal of the American Board of Family Medicine, attending weekly religious services can add 1.8 to 3.1 years to your life expectancy.

56.And if you're going to church, join the choir.

According to findings from a 2013 study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, singing in a choir has the same health benefits as yoga. They found that the heartbeats of choir members begin to synchronize, resulting in a calming effect on the mind and body.

57.Make healthy changes.

A 2013 study in Lancet Oncology demonstrated that making healthy life changes is associated with longer telomeres, the "caps" at the ends of chromosomes. Shorter telomeres have been linked in past research to cell aging, as well as higher risks of age-related diseases. Adjusting your daily habits so that you eat whole foods, exercise, meditate, and lean on your support system may add years to your life.

58.Hope for a daughter if you're a man.

According to a 2006 study of a rural Polish population published in the American Journal of Human Biology, having daughters may increase the lifespan of fathers. For every daughter born, the dads studied lived about 74 weeks longer.

59.Take more vacations.

A 2014 analysis of the famed Framingham Heart Study published in The Lancet showed that the more frequently men took vacations, the longer they lived.

60.Have a couple of kids.

According to a 2016 study published in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, becoming a parent can increase longevity by decreasing your risk of conditions such as cancer and heart disease. But, according to the study, this health benefit didn't increase beyond two children.

61.Eat Mediterranean.

A 2011 study published in the journal Age showed that the chances of living longer increased 20 percent from eating a Mediterranean diet, meaning foods rich in healthy fats (like olive oil), fish, and fresh produce.

62.Cycle.

A study presented at the European Society of Cardiology Congress in 2013 showed that French cyclists in the Tour de France generally live longer than their non-cycling peers. The study included data from 786 French cyclists who participated in the race at least once between 1947 and 2012.

63.As you can!

A 2011 study of Copenhagen cyclists presented at the European Society of Cardiology found that men who pedaled the fastest lived about five years longer than men who pedaled slowest. The take-home? Physical activity is good, but vigorous activity is even better.

64.Dance!

Research published in 2013 in the journal Anthropology & Aging found that people (in particular, older people) can dance their way toward improved health and happiness because of the activity's social, mental, and physical benefits.

65.Don't retire.

The Longevity Project found that most men who made it to extreme old age had successful, satisfying careers and continued to work—at least on a part-time basis—into their 70s.

66.Eat more fiber.

A 2011 study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine found that people who met dietary guidelines for fiber—25 grams per day for women and 38 grams per day for men—had a lower risk of dying over a nine-year period.

67.Don't go crazy with vitamin supplements.

Although many health professionals advocate taking vitamins to help prevent deficiencies in vital nutrients, a 2007 Copenhagen University review of 815 clinical trials published in JAMA found that taking supplements had a detrimental effect on lifespan.

68.Drink Greek coffee.

Residents of the Greek island of Ikaria tend to live to age 90 or older. A 2013 study on 71 men and 71 women who lived on Ikaria published in Vascular Medicine found that those who drank boiled Greek coffee on a daily basis had better endothelial functioning than those who drank other kinds of coffee.

69.Swim more often.

A 2003 study published in the International Journal of Aquatic Education and Research showed that regular swimming cut death risk for men by 50 percent—compared with running, walking, or being sedentary.

70.Keep your mind active.

Another secret of the long-lived people of Okinawa, Japan, is to keep your brain actively engaged with games and intellectual stimulation. A 2008 WebMD survey found that 89 percent of centenarians keep their minds active.

71.Live in a blue state.

The 10 U.S. states with the highest life expectancy were also reliably Democrat-leaning in presidential elections, according to a 2018 study published in the JAMA journal.

72.Be creative.

A 2012 study on U.S. military veterans published in the Journal of Aging and Health showed that those who exhibited the most creativity reduced their mortality risk by 12 percent.

73.Add some events to your social calendar.

Frequent social engagements may add as much to your lifespan as cutting cholesterol or lowering blood pressure. That's the finding of Thomas Glass, associate professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, who tracked the activities of nearly 3,000 people aged 65 and older over 13 years.

74.Explore new territory.

According to a 2012 study published by the Cochrane Library, changing up your routine and frequently engaging in challenging and intellectually stimulating activities can reduce your risk of Alzheimer's later in life.

75.Work hard.

A hardworking personality trait extends life by an average of two to three years, according to research cited in The Longevity Project.

76.Eat tomatoes.

Foods high in antioxidants, particularly deep-colored fruits and vegetables, can help fight the oxidizing effect of UV rays. One 2011 study in the British Journal of Dermatology found participants who ate five tablespoons of tomato paste (a highly concentrated form of fresh tomatoes) daily showed 33 percent more protection against sunburn than a control group.

77.Meditate.

Studies show that meditation helps improve many different types of conditions, including depression, anxiety, chronic pain, diabetes, and high blood pressure, as well as improving concentration, memory, and reasoning skills, according to the EOC Institute.

78.Don't work for a jerk.

According to Gary Namie, Ph.D., founder of the Workplace Bullying Institute, more and more research indicates that being bullied and unduly stressed at work can lead to serious health consequences. Seek support from your family and counsel from a doctor as to when it's time to throw in the towel. "Nobody deserves cardiovascular disease for a paycheck," says Namie. "No matter how big the paycheck is."

79.Only eat when you're hungry.

Dietitian Zoe Nicholson, co-founder of the moderation eating movement, advocates "intuitive eating," or eschewing regularly scheduled meals and mindless snacking to only eat when we're hungry. "When we eat intuitively, our bodies crave a variety of nourishing food, we are much less likely to overeat or comfort eat and it becomes easier to maintain a stable healthier weight," she says.

80.Drink in moderation.

Ever notice that more than a few centenarians in the news attribute their long life to drinking good whiskey? It's not just chatter: In 2010's Dietary Guidelines for Americans, the Department of Health and Human Services said there was "strong evidence" that moderate drinking prevented heart disease, and "moderate evidence" that it helped prevent dementia.What's moderation? In a meta-analysis of 34 studies that followed subjects for years, the American Medical Association said that "one to two drinks per day for women and two to four drinks per day for men are inversely associated with total mortality." But keep it moderate: Binge drinking and alcoholism have been shown to shorten lifespan (by up to a decade for the latter).

81.Guzzle green tea.

Researchers from the Norwich BioScience Institutes recently discovered that the polyphenols, a type of micronutrient in green tea, blocks something called VEGF, a signaling molecule in the body that triggers plaque buildup in the arteries that can lead to heart attacks, stroke, and vascular disease. The life-extending brew may also ward off wrinkles by fighting inflammation and improving the skin's elasticity, keeping you young both inside and out.

82.Blast belly fat.

Visceral fat—the blubber that wraps itself around your internal organs, AKA belly fat, makes you twice as likely to die of any cause as actually being obese, according to a 2008 study published in The New England Journal of Medicine. That's because it spews toxins and causes diabetes, heart disease, liver failure, and all sorts of other problems. The good news: You can target belly fat by eating delicious foods that actually turn off the genes responsible for its production.

83.Take precautions against colon cancer.

As it stands now, colon cancer is the third-leading cause of cancer death among men in the U.S., according to the American Cancer Society. But when precancerous polyps are removed from the colon before they turn malignant, colon cancer is almost completely preventable. That's why it's essential to get a preventative colonoscopy as often as your doctor recommends, which is usually once every 10 years.

84.Be realistic.

While optimism is a quality that'll vastly improve your quality of life, being pragmatic can also lengthen your life. According to Leslie R. Martin, one of the authors of The Longevity Project, blind optimism can make you less able to deal with life's setbacks and overcome them.

85.Eat yogurt.

The health benefits of this 2,000-year-old food are not disputed: Fermentation spawns hundreds of millions of probiotic organisms that serve as reinforcements to the battalions of beneficial bacteria in your body. That helps boost your immune system and provides protection against cancer, according to Harvard's School of Public Health. Not all yogurts are probiotic, though, so make sure the label says "live and active cultures." Aim for one cup daily.

86.Drink apple juice.

In a 2010 study published in the Journal of Alzheimer's Disease, researchers found that drinking two glasses of apple juice per day is associated with the breakup of plaques in the brain that can lead to dementia.

87.Get preventative care.

One 2007 study published in the Scandinavian Journal of Public Health followed 2,000 30- to 49-year-olds over a period of 15 years. The researchers discovered that those who sought regular preventative care experienced a "significantly greater" lifespan than those who didn't. (You can find the National Institute of Health's current guidelines for regular checkups and testing here.)

88.Protect your skin from the sun.

Avoiding sunburn lowers your chances of developing skin cancers like melanoma, which can be one of the hardest malignancies to treat. You can lower your risk by covering up or slapping on sunscreen to prevent a burn.Just don't go overboard and refuse to ever leave the house. Sun exposure is crucial for your natural production of vitamin D, which is associated with a lower risk of several cancers, according to a 2012 study published in the journal Frontiers in Endocrinology.

89.Go to bed one hour earlier.

Research published in 2014 in the Journal of Sleep Research found that people who normally slept for seven hours or less a night and went to bed only one hour earlier experienced a measurable drop in blood pressure. That lowers your risk of having a heart attack or stroke.

90.Analyze your family tree.

Take a look back at your family tree to make note of what diseases you're likely predisposed to thanks to family history. If a certain disease occurred in more than one close relative or occurred in a relative at an earlier age than expected, you could be at a greater risk for that disease than the average person, according to Understanding Genetics.

91.Dump soda—even diet.

Research says it may shorten your life. A 2014 study published in the American Journal of Public Health followed 5,300 healthy people who regularly drank soda and found that they experienced advanced cell aging by up to four years—potentially trimming their lifespan by that much. And even diet soda is bad news: The high levels of phosphorus in dark sodas weakens bones.

92.Eat salmon.

Fatty fish, such as tuna, wild salmon, mackerel, and sardines, contain high levels of omega-3 fatty acids, nutrients that have been proven to lower overall mortality risk by up to 27 percent and decrease the odds of dying from heart disease by about 35 percent.They also offer many anti-aging benefits. Eating a few servings of fatty fish each week has been shown to help guard against Alzheimer's disease and help reduce joint pain and stiffness by suppressing the production of enzymes that erode cartilage, according to Harvard's School of Public Health.

93.Get your vitamin K.

Thanks to their high vitamin K content, noshing on leafy vegetables like kale, collards, and mustard greens can help slow cognitive decline, according to a 2017 study published in the journal Neurology. In fact, the researchers discovered that people who ate one to two servings of the greens daily had the cognitive ability of a person 11 years younger than those who consumed none.

94.Be adaptable.

Researchers at the 2010 Georgia Centenarian Study interviewed 244 people age 100 or older over an eight-year period. Their results, published in the journal Current Gerontology and Geriatrics Research, found that adapting to and coping with stressful situations was crucial for successful aging. Those who meditated on stressful situations were healthier than those who made quick emotional reactions.

95.Mind your cholesterol.

A 2015 study published in BMJ followed a group of men for 50 years and found that the men who lived to be 100 had three things in common: They didn't smoke, they drank no more than four cups of coffee a day, and they had healthy cholesterol levels, which greatly reduces the risk of heart attack and stroke.

96.Feel in control and worthwhile.

According to a 2014 study published in The Lancet, people who felt the most control over their lives and felt that it was worthwhile had a 30 percent lower chance of dying than those who felt the least in control.

97.Eat sweet potatoes and turmeric.

This one's another tip from the centenarian-dense Okinawa, Japan. About 60 percent of these folks' diet involves sweet potatoes, which are high in flavonoids, fiber, and good carbs. Also a dietary staple: Turmeric, a spice with antioxidants that help prevent cancer and heart disease, according to 2018 research published in the journal Advanced Biomedical Research.

98.Quit smoking.

This one really is a no-brainer. But if you insist on seeing a study that shows smoking cigarettes is like playing Russian Roulette, here you are: 2012 research published in the journal The Lancet followed 1.3 million people between 1996 and 2001. The study showed that giving up cigarettes helped subjects live 10 years longer than if they'd continued smoking.

99.Know that it's never too late.

The authors of The Longevity Project emphasize that you can make positive changes, even small ones, and see a measurable effect. Just don't be intimidated and get down on it. "Thinking of making changes as taking 'steps' is a great strategy," the authors advise. "You can't change major things about yourself overnight. But making small changes, and repeating those steps, can eventually create that path to a longer life."

100.Enjoy life.

Ultimately, the Longevity Project researchers isolated one trait common to centenarians that's the strongest predictor of survival: how they feel about their health, well-being, and support systems. If you don't feel good about where you are today, make a plan—however small—using this list as a starting point, and begin changing that today! 

Grant Stoddard

Thursday 18 August 2022

10 Sweet Things to Say to a Girl

 We all have crushes at one point in our lives because that is just how the natural order of things go. It starts with the butterflies in your stomach every time you see her, the nervous lump in your throat every chance you get to speak to her, and the wild beating of the heart, almost as if it’s going to jump out of your chest.Imagine sitting across this girl during free time at school. You’re talking about random things, the conversation is getting better, you want to compliment her, but you don’t know what to say. You don’t just want to compliment her looks and for her to get the wrong impression.

10 Sweet Things to Say to a Girl

So what do you say? Here are ten sweet things to say to a girl to make her smile and feel special:

1. Your presence lights up the whole room.

Don’t just tell her that she’s beautiful because she has probably heard that from a lot of boys. Instead, go with a sentence that shows her inner value. Make her feel that while you appreciate her physical beauty, it’s nothing compared to her true beauty inside.

Tell her that her mere presence is enough to light up an entire room, that without her, your day is nothing but gloomy skies and rain clouds. Show her that the world is a better place with her in it and that your life is more complete with her in the picture.

2. I love how you’re so passionate.

Let her know how much you admire her passions. It also helps if you let her talk about her interests and genuinely pay attention. It’s a big deal for girls when guys listen to them talk about their goals in life and this is also the perfect opportunity for you to get to know her better.

3. I admire your strong personality.

Gone are times when girls stayed at home and kept their words to themselves. Women have learned to stand up for themselves and to fight for their rights. Instead of setting your mind back in ancient times, celebrate her independence and commend her for her fighting spirit.

4. Your laughter is the best sound I know.

This is a classic how-to-make-a-girl-swoon line that you should always have up your sleeve. Girls like a guy who can make them laugh and they love it even more when you tell them how much you love their laughter. Make her melt inside by casually saying this line after making her cry tears of laughter from your best jokes.

5. I love listening to you talk.

Girls can be known to be a little bit on the talkative side, so they always love a guy who knows who listens to them talk even almost all day. Don’t just sit there and let words enter one ear and exit the other! Maintain your eye contact, nod your head, and actually listen to the words she’s saying because it’s important to you as well.

6. I remember you telling me that.

What’s one more thing that girls love from a guy aside from being a good listener? A guy who actually remembers the tiny details they share in their stories. When you tell her that you remember that detail you said, it makes her feel that you really do care about her and the things she does.

7. I’ll help you in any way I can.

Even though girls love being strong and independent, there are still times when they appreciate accepting a bit of help. You should never forget to remind her that you have her back in anything that she decides to do. Lending her a hand will never go unnoticed and unacknowledged.

8. You’re so compassionate.

You may love your girl for a lot of reasons: she volunteers at a local pet shelter, she aids children in need, or she spends her free time helping the homeless or saving the environment. The important thing is to support her and to let her know that you know what she’s doing and you like her for it. Appreciate her compassionate spirit and let it even grow and thrive with a ton of sprinkles of support from you.

9. I’d love to hear more about that.

Engage in the conversation and show deep interest in the subjects she likes talking about that. It may not be enough to just nod your head to the rhythm of her voice, so take mental notes of what she’s saying and take it as a cue to expand the conversation further. Remember that you care about her and the things she cares about, so don’t be afraid to say that you want to hear more about those things.

10. You’re really making a difference.

Lastly, put her on top of the world by telling her that the things she does are truly making a difference. There’s nothing sweeter and heartwarming than telling the person that the good she’s placing into this world is really making a difference. It shows how much the things she cares about matter to you as well and you’re with her on this journey.

You finally muster up the courage to pick one of the ten lines mentioned above. What does she say, or more importantly, how does she react? There is no easy way to say a sweet thing to a girl because there’s no prediction of what her reaction is going to be, but if you stayed faithful to our tips, then there is no way for you to go wrong on this one.Let’s say she does like the line you throw her, then good for you! This is your opportunity now to seize the moment and sweep her off her feet! Take her hand and dive into a wondrous world full of deep conversations and wondrous delights.It’s been tested and proven that girls can be won over by charms only, so don’t be afraid to bring it all you’ve got. You only get to live one life and you only get to truly love one girl. Say it now before it’s too late!

Carisha Yabora

Wednesday 17 August 2022

Drinking This 3 Times a Week Can Help You Live Longer, Study Finds

 Adding this to your routine could seriously improve your cardiovascular health and lengthen your life.

If this year has taught us anything, it's that so many things in life hinge on good health. And while many of the health habits that boost longevity can feel like a chore—long workouts and Spartan diets, to name a few—other health rituals can be an absolute pleasure. According to a January study published in the European Journal of Preventive Cardiology, one such habit promises a simple way to live a "longer and healthier life:" habitually drinking tea.After following a cohort of 100,902 study subjects over the course of roughly seven years, the study found that habitual tea consumption was linked with "more healthy years of life and longer life expectancy," a press release for the study explained. In particular, regular tea consumption—defined as habitually drinking tea three times per week or more—was found to be associated with lower risks of cardiovascular disease.When compared with those who drank tea infrequently or never, habitual tea drinkers had a 20 percent lower risk of incident heart disease and stroke, 22 percent lower risk of fatal heart disease and stroke, and 15 percent lower risk of death from other causes.The researchers also analyzed how changes in a person's habits affected outcome by surveying a subset of 14,081 participants twice, at an average of 8.2 years apart. They found that habitual tea drinkers who maintained their tea habit over the course of that time had a "39 percent lower risk of incident heart disease and stroke, 56 percent lower risk of fatal heart disease and stroke, and 29 percent decreased risk of all-cause death compared to consistent never or non-habitual tea drinkers.""The protective effects of tea were most pronounced among the consistent habitual tea drinking group," explained senior author Dongfeng Gu, a researcher from the Chinese Academy of Medical Sciences. "Mechanism studies have suggested that the main bioactive compounds in tea, namely polyphenols, are not stored in the body long-term. Thus, frequent tea intake over an extended period may be necessary for the cardioprotective effect," he added.

Green tea had the best benefits.

The researchers discovered that in particular, green tea yielded the most robust health benefits. While green tea was associated with a 25 percent lower risk of heart disease and stroke, the team found that black tea had no such associations.This may be because green tea is rich in polyphenols, which are known to promote good cardiovascular health and mitigate high blood pressure. Black tea has fewer antioxidant benefits because it is fully fermented, the researchers say.

Adding milk may lessen health benefits.

Another reason researchers believe black tea might promote fewer health benefits is because of how it is traditionally served. They noted that previous research has shown that drinking tea with milk, which can be high in saturated fat, may undermine the positive effects of tea on cardiovascular health.

Men experienced far more benefits than women.

When the researchers controlled for gender, they discovered that men seemed to enjoy much more pronounced health benefits of regular tea consumption than women."One reason might be that 48 percent of men were habitual tea consumers compared to just 20 percent of women. Secondly, women had much lower incidence of, and mortality from, heart disease and stroke. These differences made it more likely to find statistically significant results among men," explained Xinyan Wang, another researcher from the Chinese Academy of Medical Sciences.

Habitual tea drinking seems to delay health episodes.

The researchers observed that subjects from the habitual tea-drinking group who did ultimately experience negative acute health episodes tended to face them later, on average, than the non-habitual tea drinkers. For instance, the team suggested that 50-year-old habitual tea drinkers would develop coronary heart disease or suffer a stroke 1.41 years later than those in the non tea-drinking group. Based on their findings, they also projected that habitual tea drinkers would live 1.26 years longer than the control group.

Lauren Gray

Tuesday 16 August 2022

14 Things Men Should Do to Earn a Woman’s Trust

 So, you told this woman you like her, but she said back off because you don’t have the looks of someone who can be trusted. Ouch. Or maybe your girl said she loves you, but would check where you are and whom you are with every hour—and she doesn’t believe the details you tell her, so she spies on you!It is normal for a woman who has been cheated on in her past relationships to have difficulty trusting men again. Or if you are currently in a relationship and your girlfriend has caught you lying several times, you cannot blame her for suspecting you to be doing something behind her back. And it won’t be easy gaining her 100% trust again.

What you can do to get her trust

If you want to gain a woman’s trust, here are 14 things that you can do. They are simple, but not so easy. However, if they successfully work, you will have a better chance of winning a woman’s heart or securing your relationship. Here they are:

1. Start with friendship.

Friendship is the best foundation of a relationship. Through a genuine friendship, you can let the girl you like to know who you really are without pressure and vice versa. It may be a slower process, but it is more solid than starting with a date immediately.

2. Be real in front of her.

Being true to yourself before the woman you like will make it easier for her to trust you because she learns what you are and what you are not. Pretending to be someone else may impress her at the beginning, but sooner or later she will find out her true colors and that would make her feel deceived.

3. Make your intentions clear to her.

If you want to date a girl, you have to make your intentions clear. Is it because you like her and you want to know her better? Or are you just bored and you only want to have fun? This will help her set boundaries for your relationship and avoid disappointments too.

4. Introduce her to your family and friends.

If you are serious with a woman, and you want her to feel secure, then introduce her to your family and friends. This way, she would feel important to you and that you are not hiding anything or anyone from her.

5. Be consistent with how you treat her.

Men are good at making girls feel special during the dating stage, but once they go steady or after a year of being together, their treatment towards them turns sour. When a girl notices that her boyfriend has changed towards her, she can’t help think he has found someone else. Therefore, make sure that you remain sweet and affectionate to your girl all throughout your relationship.

6. Don’t break promises.

Don’t make a promise that you cannot keep. Once you have broken a promise, the woman you promised to will be disappointed and think you are a liar. It will be hard for her to trust you again, so think before you vow to do something.

7. Never ever lie and get caught.

There is no such thing as a ‘white lie’. All lies, even the small ones, are still lies and can break a girl’s confidence in you. Women are good detectives, so don’t dare to try to get away from trouble by lying—it can make it worse. It’s better if you are honest even if it could hurt her because at least she knows she can believe you.

8. Be the first one to let her know.

If you are caught in a situation that you know would enrage your girl, like you ran into your ex in the lift and got trapped for an hour in it, don’t try to hide what happened. Instead, tell her immediately before anyone else does. If she knows it from another source, she would feel you are hiding something from her.

9. Be open to her.

Openness is an essential factor in a healthy relationship because you can honestly tell each other how you feel. It is not good if you cannot trust each other with your thoughts. If you want your girlfriend to be honest with you, make the first move by opening up your feelings and secrets to her.

10. Show that you trust her.

Trust begets trust. You cannot demand trust from a woman if you don’t trust her yourself. That is why make her feel that you completely trust her. Don’t check her phone every time you see her or get jealous of her guy friends easily.

11. Don’t be too friendly with other girls.

It’s okay to be friends with girls, but do not overdo it by being too sweet or flirty with them. You don’t want to give your girlfriend any reason to be jealous of them. Sometimes, a woman can go to the extreme of not allowing her boyfriend to see his girlfriends anymore, because she is afraid of what he does with them when she’s not around.

12. Apologize but don’t make excuses.

In case you have done something wrong that could hurt her, be humble by sincerely apologizing and assuring her you regret it. You explain your side, but avoid making excuses to get away from the situation. Excuses can actually make you look defensive and guilty.

13. Be patient.

Do not be impatient when trying to get a woman’s trust, especially if it was your fault why you lost it. It takes time to build trust. Therefore, just be consistent and honest with her all the time. Don’t pressure her to trust you because it would be harder for her.

14. Trust yourself.

How can you earn trust from another person if you can’t even gain trust from yourself? Indeed it’s hard to earn trust from the woman you love, and you might feel desperate and hopeless. But girls love to see constant efforts – they want to feel sincerity, patience, and persistence. So if you wish to become trustworthy in the eyes of a woman, learn to trust yourself and don’t give up on winning her mind and heart.

Be trustworthy

Trust is fragile. It is hard to gain it, but it can be broken in just one slip. Therefore, instead of focusing on getting a woman’s trust, strive to build integrity for yourself. This way, you can be trustworthy to anybody, and it will not be hard to get anyone to believe in you.

Cyril Abello

Sunday 14 August 2022

How to Treat Your Girlfriend with Respect

 Is it your first time having a girlfriend? Or were your previous relationships a failure and your ex-girlfriends complained that you did not treat them with respect? Do not worry. I have here tips that can help you treat girls better or show them respect.

1. Meet her family and be courteous to them.

If you are really serious with your current girlfriend, then have the guts to meet her family formally. This way, you can show them that you have well-intentions for their daughter. It is also a sign that you respect them. You can also have a sincere talk with them, giving the assurance that you will take care of her.

2. Introduce her to your family.

To prove to your girlfriend that you take your relationship seriously, and you have no other girlfriends, you should introduce her to your family. This will make her feel honored and respected. Also, this is a sign that you are proud to have her.

3. Meet and accept her friends.

Even before you arrived in her life, she had her old friends already. Be willing to meet and befriend them as well. Take the time and effort to be part of their friendship circle. This way, you will know them better, so you can learn to trust them. If she has boyfriends, do not stop her from seeing them. Logically, if she could have a thing with any of them, she should have ended up with that person a long time ago.

4. Introduce her to your friends.

One way of showing your girl the respect she deserves is by letting her enter your world too. Let her meet your friends so that she will know who you are with every time you message her that you are with the gang. She will have peace knowing the persons you hang up with.

5. Avoid flirting with other girls.

You may think flirting is not that harmful and it is just for fun. However, just try to put yourself in the shoes of your girlfriend. What would you feel if you know her flirting and having ‘harmless’ dirty talks with some other guys? Even if your girlfriend would not know about your flirting habits, you would not do it if you really love her—because of respect. You do not want your flirt-partners to be laughing at your girlfriend behind her back, right?

6. Do not bring her to unwholesome places.

If you truly respect your girlfriend, then you would protect her dignity and welfare. You would not want people thinking negatively against her, just because she was seen in a dark or unwholesome place with a man. Also, you do not want to risk her to dangers that might be lurking in such a place.

7. Avoid being rude to her.

No matter how mad you get at your girlfriend because of a misunderstanding, never ever use harsh or obscene words on her. Do not treat her harshly like leaving her alone in the street at night. You have to remain to be a gentleman to her, even if you are losing your patience.

8. Never force her to do things.

In case you want to do something which she does not want, especially sensual stuff, do not threaten her just to get what you want. You have to respect her decisions and moral principles. Forcing her is called abuse or harassment. Again, as her man, you should be the first one to protect her and her dignity as a woman. Do not be the cause of her self-esteem deterioration.

9. Do not be a dictator.

Your girlfriend has free will. For this reason, you should allow her to decide for herself. You should not force her to base her decisions on what you want and what you do not want. Trust and respect her judgment.

10. Appreciate her publicly and privately.

Appreciation is one way of acknowledging a person. If you make it a habit to praise your girlfriend even in simple things, you boost her self-worth. You make her feel that you value her as a person and that you are proud of her. You will see how blooming she can get, because of your appreciation.

11. Do not embarrass her in public.

On the other hand, embarrassing her especially in front of other people would make her lose her self-worth. It is a sign that you do not respect her at all. No matter how pissed off you are because of her nagging or whatever, control your temper. Just talk to her privately about the issue, and try to fix things in a quiet way.

12. Consult her for decision-making.

It is not that you will make her decide for you. Of course, as an individual, you have your right to decide for yourself. However, consulting her before you make a decision and asking for her opinion would make her see that you really value her thoughts and feelings.

13. Do not abuse her in any way.

If you respect your girlfriend, you would never dare lay a hand on her or hurt her feelings. As a gentleman, be careful not to harm her physically, sexually, verbally, and psychologically. Respect her rights as a human being, remind yourself that you ought to protect her.

14. Do not take her for granted.

Taking your girlfriend for granted is an indication that you do not respect her feelings. You also do not think of her as someone worthy of your attention. How do you avoid taking her for granted? Do not make her wait whenever you have a date. Do not forget or break your promises. Give her time and do not stop making efforts to make her feel special. Listen to her advice and suggestions as well.

Be the man

You are blessed to have been chosen by your girlfriend. Therefore, never take her for granted. Always treat her and her loved ones with respect. You should also be patient with her despite her tantrums and mood swings. As you do these, rest assured you will receive the same treatment from her.

Cyril Abello

Saturday 13 August 2022

These Are the Only 2 Supplements That Help You Live Longer, Study Finds

 When it comes to a healthy heart and long life, these are the only supplements proven to work.

According to a 2019 poll by the American Osteopathic Association, 86 percent of Americans take vitamins or dietary supplements on a daily basis. With the COVID pandemic triggering anxiety and more health awareness in people across the U.S., you may have added a few more supplements to your regimen. But if you're trying to live a longer life or want to avoid a heart attack-related death, a recent Johns Hopkins meta-analysis has some good and bad news. After looking at studies of 16 vitamins, the researchers found that only two supplements actually work to help you live longer and stay healthy.

Folic acid and omega-3 supplements are the only ones linked to improved heart health and a longer life.

Taking omega-3 fatty acids supplements and folic acid are the only two supplements linked to living a longer life and improved heart heath, Johns Hopkins Medicine researchers say. According to a 2019 analysis published in the Annals of Internal Medicine, which looked into 277 clinical trials with 24 various interventions, most supplements have no effect when it comes to improving health in most people.In a statement, Safi U. Khan, MD, the lead author of the analysis and an assistant professor of medicine at West Virginia University, said the analysis "carries a simple message that although there may be some evidence that a few interventions have an impact on death and cardiovascular health, the vast majority of multivitamins, minerals and different types of diets had no measurable effect on survival or cardiovascular disease risk reduction."

Researchers suggest folic acid can successfully reduce stroke risk by 20 percent.

Researchers at Johns Hopkins analyzed data from 25 studies in 25,580 healthy people and noticed that folic acid supplements were connected to a 20 percent decrease of stroke.Folic acid—a synthetic from of folate, better known as vitamin B9—assists in the production of new red blood cells, which carry oxygen throughout your body, notes Medical News Today. In its natural form, folate is also found in whole grains, dark leafy vegetables, peanuts, and beans, among other foods, according to Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health.

Omega-3 supplements can decrease your risk of heart attack by almost 10 percent.

According to the Johns Hopkins analysis, the possible impact of omega-3 supplements, a form of unsaturated fatty acid, was evaluated in 41 studies, totaling 134,032 participants. The findings suggest that the fatty acid supplement was connected to an eight percent decrease in heart attack risk. It also saw a seven percent reduction in coronary heart disease.Omega-3 fatty acids have been found to minimize inflammation in the body, reducing the risk of heart disease and stroke. The Mayo Clinic explains that omega-3 fatty acid also has the ability to slightly lower blood pressure, decrease triglycerides, reduce blood clotting, and make heartbeats more regular.

Many popular supplements showed no affect on heart health or longevity.

"Multivitamins, selenium, vitamin A, vitamin B6, vitamin C, vitamin E, vitamin D alone, calcium alone and iron showed no link to increased or decreased risk of death or heart health," the Johns Hopkins analysis explained.In fact, the analysis found that taking calcium and vitamin D at the same time increase a person's risk of stroke by 17 percent.

The research proves it's best to get your key nutrients from foods instead of supplements.

Ultimately, the Johns Hopkins researchers remind people to listen to their doctor's recommendations and try to get nutrients from natural resources. "The panacea or magic bullet that people keep searching for in dietary supplements isn't there," senior author Erin D. Michos, MD, associate professor of medicine at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, said in a statement. "People should focus on getting their nutrients from a heart-healthy diet, because the data increasingly show that the majority of healthy adults don't need to take supplements."

Danielle Cinone

Friday 12 August 2022

21 Tips to Maintain a Good Relationship with Your Girlfriend

 Maintaining a good relationship with your girlfriend takes more work than just a feeling. It requires a remarkable amount of focus and heaps of effort. If you want to take a proactive approach to create and build a good relationship with her, here are 21 tips that might help you.

1. Leave no doubts.

Simply, make sure that she knows you’re 100% into her and not just because of her physical features. Let her feel how much you love her every day, encourage her to achieve her goals, and lend support whenever she needs it most.

2. Never go to sleep angry.

Don’t let the day pass by without fixing your problem. Instead, continue until both sides have had enough, and decide together that the argument has ended, then forget the issue. Just learn to forgive each other, if you want to maintain a good relationship with her.

3. Spend quality time together.

Take a relaxing walk around, have a drink together, go for a weekend drive to a cafe or restaurant, disconnect from the internet, laugh, relax, and have fun together.

4. Appreciate her.

If she prepares a meal for you, tell her outright that you appreciate the things she does. Always express gratitude and acknowledge her sacrifices when she helps you out even in the smallest things.

5. Listen to her.

If you just keep on talking instead of listening, your girl will feel unwanted. Put down what you’re doing, give her your full attention, listen carefully, and try to give her advice if she needs it.

6. Talk about the future.

This will not only let your relationship feel stable, but this act also shows commitment from each other.

7. Give your support.

Encourage her to reach her dreams, let her know that you are happy and proud of her achievements, applaud her success, always be present at important events, boost her confidence when she’s struggling, and don’t forget to compliment her.

8. Avoid using words that might hurt her.

Try not to say something painful that you will regret in the end. It may be difficult for you, especially when you’re extremely angry but always remind yourself that it can ruin your relationship. You can walk away or stay silent from the argument until you cool down, this will help you keep your relationship intact.

9. Stay positive.

If you’re in a bad mood, chances are your crappy mood will rub off on everyone around you, including your girlfriend. It may be unavoidable, but try to do your best to stay positive. Let go of negative thoughts, accept and find solutions, let her see that you are approaching each challenge with a positive and happy attitude.

10. Include her in your life.

Include her in every decision you make, ask her opinion, invite her when you want to spend time with your friends and family, or offer to spend time with her friends.

11. Always be kind to her.

Always do random nice things for your girlfriend. It could be as simple as helping her with one thing on her weekend to-do list, bring her things she loves or get the ingredients to make her favorite dish. Whatever the situation is, always show her kindness. Love is kind, thus, being kind to her all the time will make her feel more loved.

12. Compliment her.

Take time to notice different things like the outfit she picked out, the way she does her makeup, or tell her you like her new haircut. However, compliments also don’t have to be purely physical. You can also compliment her on getting good grades at school, on her promotion at work, or tell her how much you admire her emotional bravery.

13. Work as a team.

You are not just a couple but you are a “team”. Think of your joint success and use it to motivate each other, support each other through discipline, and pull each other through the hard stuff.

14. Be honest.

More severe actions like being unfaithful can end a relationship, so as much as possible be honest and upfront even if you think it will make you look bad. If you did something wrong, it’s best if you let your girl know it sooner or later. And if she doesn’t trust you because of your previous acts, make an effort to show her your sincere apology and that you’ve changed.

15. Exercise together.

Work out together to stay fit, will not only beneficial for your own health and well-being but will boost happiness in your relationship. This will also help you push yourselves, motivate each other and have some quality time together.

16. Don’t play the blame game.

Assigning blame when having an argument will only ruin your relationship. So as much as possible, avoid blaming each other and work through the situation like partners.

17. Leave her sweet notes.

Writing notes for your most special girl strengthens your relationship, but you should put your feelings in writing, too, which is a great way to express yourself.

18. Be aware.

Be mindful of your own role in your relationship. When a difference arises, try becoming an observer of your thoughts, your emotions, your needs, and your ego.

19. Talk about the tough times.

Do not ignore serious issues in your relationship, as much as possible, acknowledge that tough times exist. Sit down and have a hard conversation with your girlfriend about how things have been and are willing to fix them.

20. Treat her with respect.

Value your girlfriend as a woman and as a human. Respect her opinions, emotions, principles and beliefs which may be different from yours. Show your girlfriend that you are mature and open-minded. Be considerate and learn to accept new things and be humble enough to adjust yourself for the happiness and growth of your relationship with her.

21. Show your affection.

There are actually a lot of ways to show love to your girlfriend, either through your actions, words and behavior. Send her flowers, cook her favorite dinner, take her out, surprise her, and tell her you love her while looking into her eyes, are only a few ways on how to be affectionate to your girl.

Just start with one strategy and build your way up!

Marydel Mitch Flores