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Wednesday 28 December 2022

When Someone Sees Your Message But Doesn’t Reply

 Before you get paranoid and brokenhearted, you must confirm this issue’s truth first. What if they did not purposely ignore your messages? Or what if they are upset with you about something and just need time to be okay?

To help you sort out your thoughts about the problem, check out some possible reasons why someone sees your message but doesn’t reply.

What Could It Mean

1. Probably Busy

The person is probably too busy that they have no time to reply to messages anymore. They could be trying to beat some deadlines at work and are currently stressed. If this is the case, it means they did not intentionally overlook your message.

2. Not Interested in Talking to You

Sorry to burst your bubble, but it is also possible that this individual is not really interested in chatting with you. On the other hand, maybe they can sense your attraction and do not want you to misinterpret your friendliness. That is why, to help you move on, they decide to stop responding to your messages.

3. Mad at You

What if this person is upset with you about something? This could be the reason why they do not reply to your messages. They want you to be aware that you have done something wrong, and they are not taking it lightly. So, do you remember any recent conflict or misunderstanding between the two of you?

4. Forgets to Reply

It is also possible that this person only forgot to respond to your message. Maybe they had seen your message and planned to reply to it in a while, but due to busyness, they completely forgot about it. You better give them the benefit of the doubt before accusing them of being snobs.

5. Does Not Know What to Respond

Or it could be because of your message itself. It could be something that they cannot quickly answer, so they need more time to think about it. They probably just want to be careful with their response to avoid misunderstanding. For instance, if you had asked them if they like you too and did not respond, maybe they are still hesitant to answer. It is either they do not want to hurt you, or they want to be sure of how they really feel toward you.

6. Needs Space

Another possible reason why you did not get a response is the recipient’s need for space. They are probably going through something and do not wish to speak to anyone. Instead of feeling bad immediately, be patient with them. Maybe they will contact you once they are feeling better.

7. Not Feeling Well

If not emotionally struggling, it could be a physical issue. Maybe the other person is sick, so they cannot respond to messages yet. Just way for a few more days to see how they are doing.

8. Technical Problem

Technical issues could also be the culprit to your concern. One probable reason that individual could not reply to your message is a slow Wi-Fi connection or signal reception. Or their gadget has probably run out of battery or got broken.

9. Hopes You Stop Reaching Out

In connection to no. 2, the person may intentionally ignore you to make you feel bad. If they have already expressed that they are not into you and you keep messaging them, this could be another way to convince you to stop. The person hopes you will give up on them soon.

10. Playing Hard-to-Get

Or it is possible that this person only wants you to exert more effort in pursuing them. Maybe they think you are not really serious with them, so they want to test your intentions. Of course, if you really like the person, you will not stop checking on them just because they ignore your messages.

11. Has Not Really Read Your Message

It is also possible that the person was not really able to read your message. Maybe, it was accidentally opened when they were busy, and they did not see it. For this reason, they were not able to reply to it anymore.

How to Deal with It

Instead of being a pessimist, why not do something about the situation? Who knows? If you clearly communicate with the person, your confusion will be over. You will know the exact reason why you did not get a reply.

You can do the following:

1. Give Space.

If you think this person does not wish to be contacted now, do not insist on your presence. Instead, give them enough time before trying to communicate with them again. If they still refuse to respond to your messages, consider it a sign to respect their personal space.

2. Try to Message Them Again After Some Time.

As stated in no. 1, you better try texting or chatting with the person again after a while. It can be after a few days or even weeks. As others say, allow them to miss you sometimes. If they still ignore your messages, it becomes clear that they are upset about something. Oops, do not lose hope yet. What if they finally respond?

3. Try to Call Them.

You can also try to call them (just make sure you do it outside work hours). If they do not pick up the phone after several attempts or at least return the call, it is a hint that they do not want to talk to you.

4. Talk to Them in Person.

If possible, you can also try to see them in person. If you go to the same office or live in the same neighborhood, you can drop by and try to say “hi”. If this person seems happy to see you, rest assured that your unreplied message is just a misunderstanding. You better stop making a big deal out of it.

5. Apologize for Hurting Them in Any Way.

If you sense that they are angry at you about something, you better open up. Humble yourself and say “sorry”. If you have an idea what it is all about, sincerely apologize for it. You can also try to ask them, so the issue will be clearer to you. It is better to confront the problem head-on than pretend that you have done nothing wrong.

6. Be Cool About It.

Never ever make it obvious that you are deeply affected by the unreplied messages. Pestering the person over it will only make you look pathetic. When it happens, there is a big chance they will completely stay away from you. Do not give them a reason to be turned off.

7. Avoid Overthinking.

While you are yet to confirm the actual reason for not getting a reply, stop overthinking. Divert your attention to more productive things to avoid getting stressed. Just chill and wait for the answer to your questions.

Relax

When someone sees your message but doesn’t reply, there could be different reasons for it. Do not jump to a negative conclusion immediately. It is best if you are patient to know the answer. As they say, “good things come to those who wait.”

Cyril Abello

Tuesday 27 December 2022

This Low-Impact Workout Will Strengthen Your Upper Bod Like No Other

 So, I have something I need the world to know. I. Hate. Jumping. Exercises.

Sure, plyometrics—the fancy term trainers often use to trick us into things like burpees and jump lunges—rev up your heart rate, improve your cardio fitness without a treadmill, and can work up a solid sweat. But for those of us who prefer to keep both feet on the ground because of joint issues or just a personal policy, they're torture.

Now that we're all on the same page, I'm here to tell you that Kayla Itsines, certified personal trainer and co-founder of the SWEAT app, has a new eight-week program (available on said app) designed for people like us.

Itsines says her mom wanted to follow her SWEAT workouts, but couldn't deal with all of the plyos. That inspired her to create a low-impact (aka jump-free) routine her mom, or anyone not looking to jump, could do.

Now, don't read this wrong: A low-impact workout doesn't have a low impact on your fitness—and it's not always easy. That term just means that both of your feet are on the ground at the same time as you exercise (so crushing a tough elliptical sesh def counts as a low-impact workout, JFYI).

This 15-minute upper-body circuit below is a taste of Itsines' new Low-Impact with Kayla program. It's designed to target all of the muscles in your upper bod (see: biceps, triceps, back, and shoulders) so you can up your posture game and build some muscle. Let's do this!

The workout

Perform each move in the circuit in order for 30 seconds before moving to the next exercise. Once you completed all six moves, rest for 45 seconds before starting the next lap. Do four laps before cooling down.

Bent-over row

Step 1: Holding a dumbbell in each hand with a neutral grip (palms facing inwards), plant both feet on the floor shoulder-width apart. While maintaining a slight bend in your knees, hinge forward from your hips so that your torso is parallel to the floor. Extend your arms directly below your chest. This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. Exhale. Bend your elbows to bring the dumbbells in towards your body, ensuring your elbows remain in close contact with the sides of your body. You should feel a small squeeze between your shoulder blades.

Step 3: Inhale. Extend your elbows to lower the dumbbells and return to the starting position. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Bicep curl

Step 1: Holding a dumbbell in each hand in a neutral grip (palms facing inwards) with arms extended on either side of your body, plant both feet on the floor shoulder-width apart. This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. Exhale. Bend your elbows to bring the dumbbells in towards your chest, ensuring that your elbows remain in close contact with the sides of your body.

Step 3: Inhale. Extend your elbows to lower the dumbbells and return to the starting position. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Tricep extension

Step 1: Holding a single dumbbell with both hands, plant both feet on the floor shoulder-width apart. Extend your arms above your head, ensuring that they are on either side of your ears. This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. While keeping your shoulders as still as possible, bend your elbows to lower the dumbbell behind your head.

Step 3: Exhale. Using your triceps, extend your elbows to return to the starting position, ensuring that your shoulders, elbows, and wrists remain in line with one another at all times. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Alternating shoulder press

Step 1: Holding a dumbbell in each hand, plant both feet on the floor hip-width apart. Extend both arms overhead, holding the dumbbells in a neutral grip (palms facing inwards). This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. Without moving your left arm, bend your right elbow to lower the dumbbell down to chin height.

Step 3: Exhale. Using the muscles in your right shoulder and arm, extend your right elbow to return to the starting position. Avoid “shrugging” by drawing your shoulder blades down and back.

Step 4: Inhale. Without moving your right arm, bend your left elbow to lower the dumbbell down to chin height.

Step 5: Exhale. Using the muscles in your shoulder and arm, extend your left elbow to return to the starting position. Once again, avoid “shrugging” by drawing your shoulder blades down and back. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Reverse fly

Step 1: Holding one dumbbell in each hand, plant both feet on the floor shoulder-width apart. Hinge forwards from your hips so that your torso is parallel to the floor. Bend your knees slightly and extend your arms to hold the dumbbells directly below your chest. This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. Exhale. While maintaining a slight bend in your elbows, raise the dumbbells outwards and upwards from below your chest until they reach shoulder height. You should feel a small squeeze between your shoulder blades.

Step 3: Inhale. Gently lower the dumbbells to return to the starting position. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Arnold press

Step 1: Holding two dumbbells with an underhand grip (palms facing towards your body) directly in front of your chest, plant both feet on the floor slightly further than shoulder-width apart. This is your starting position.

Step 2: Inhale. Exhale. Using the muscles in both your shoulders and arms, extend your elbows to press the dumbbells above your head, rotating your wrists outwards (internal rotation) to turn your palms away from your body. Your arms should be in line with your ears on either side of your head.

Step 3: Inhale. Once your arms are fully extended, bend your elbows to lower the dumbbells into your chest and rotate your wrists inwards (external rotation) to return to the starting position. That's one rep. Do as many as you can in 30 seconds.

Ashley Oerman

Monday 26 December 2022

Cookie Cakes Are the New “It Desserts”

 There are two types of people in this world: People who love cookies, and people who love cake. (Yes, you can be both, and we respect that v much.) If you're hosting a party—or are in charge of bringing the dessert—you should aim to cater to both of these groups. And we know exactly how to do so...with a cookie cake.

Lucky for you (and us, tbh), Christina Tosi, the founder of Milk Bar and the author of the new book All About Cookies, decided to let us in on her best cookie cake recipe. And like, she OBVIOUSLY knows what she's doing. (If you've ever been in a Milk Bar...you know.) Read on for easy instructions on how to make the corn cookie cake you see above, starting with the steps to make the dough and then the steps to actually assemble the ooey-gooey cake (pro tip: the more mixins, the better). Bake one for your next soirée and have mall-food-court cookie cakes across the country quaking in your wake.

Milk Bar Cookie Cake

Makes one 8-inch cookie cake

    1 stick (8 tablespoons) unsalted butter, softened

    ¾ cup + 2 tablespoons sugar

    1 large egg

    ¾ cup flour

    ½ cup corn powder

    3 tablespoons + 2 teaspoons corn flour

    1 teaspoon kosher salt

    ¼ teaspoon baking powder

    ? teaspoon baking soda

Steps to Make the Corn Cookie Dough Base

    In the bowl of a stand mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, cream together the butter and sugar on medium-high for 7 minutes. (No stand mixer? Elbow grease and a spoon work just fine.) Scrape down the sides of the bowl.

    Add the egg and mix until smooth, about 1 minute.

    Add the flour, corn powder, corn flour, salt, baking powder, and baking soda and paddle on low speed just until the dough comes together, no longer than 1 minute. Scrape down the sides of the bowl. This dough is now ready to be made into a cookie cake!

Steps to Build the Cookie Cake

    Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Spray an 8-inch cake ring or springform mold and place it on top of a sprayed half-sheet pan.

    Prepare your cookie dough base. (We’re going with the corn cake because yum, but Christina’s new cookbook has more sweet flavor options.)

    Choose 1 to 3 mix-ins (look to your left) and add ¼ cup of each to the bowl of dough. Mix on low for 45 seconds, until evenly distributed.

    Flatten out the cookie dough into the ring evenly, making sure there are no divots and the mix-ins are visible throughout.

    Sprinkle additional mix-ins along the outer ¼ inch of the dough’s edge, just inside the ring.

    Bake until the cookie is caramelized, the outer edges are set, and the center has color and is barely glossy, 20 to 22 minutes.

    Let it cool completely before unmolding. Serve whole or slice into 8 wedges.

Hannah Chubb, Rachel Sylvester and Andrea Zendejas

The 223 Most Unique and Romantic Date Ideas

 You don’t need us to tell you it’s been a weird couple of years, which is probably why dating again feels even, well, weirder. If you’ve grown emotionally attached to your vibrator and aren’t quite sure how to have a normal conversation again, then you can at least take comfort in knowing that you’re def not alone. And if you’re thinking about getting back out there and getting into some romance, then we've your answer to, "So...where should we go on a date?"

Whether you’re looking for a cute first date idea or something for you and your person to do on a random Saturday night, here are literally 224 of our best date ideas for 2022. Some of them are a little more extreme—looking at you, skydiving and crashing a wedding—whereas others are great for people who kinda forgot how to be a person once 2020 hit. Because yes, even you can sit at home naked and eat food as a “date."

And for the record, a lot of these date ideas can also be accomplished via Zoom, so if you’re in an LDR, there are plenty of options for some virtual, long-distance date ideas, too. Enjoy!

1. Play strip poker. “Oh, no! I lose again!” *whips off shirt*

2. Make sidewalk chalk art. Depending on your neighborhood, this can be super sweet or super naughty.

3. Have a water balloon/water gun fight. It’s the ultimate way to ~get wet.~ (Just be sure to pick up your trash because littering! isn’t! sexy!)

4. Go appetizer hopping. Everyone knows apps are the best part of a meal. Hit up a few of your fave spots and share some small plates and drinks at each one.

5. Host a wine tasting night. Everyone brings a bottle of wine. You cover them all up with paper and number them. Everyone votes for their favorite number. You all get very drunk and maybe find a new favorite wine. But def very drunk.

6. Go yard sale-ing. One person’s trash can now be your trash!

7. Feed each other food/food combos blindfolded and guess what they are. Be sure to note any food allergies, unless you’re looking to move this date to the hospital.

8. Make candles. There are literal places you can go to do this, or you can just buy a kit on Amazon and make them at home. Either way, it’ll make setting the mood much more memorable the next time you *light up.*

9. Make ice cream sundaes at home. And then get creative with that leftover whipped cream, if ya know what we mean ;).

10. Have a naked day. You’re just naked. All day. Together. That’s it. That’s the date.

11. Have a “Finer Things Club” day. If you’ve seen The Office, you know this involves eating fine food, drinking fine drinks, and discussing high-class things like literature and FILM. If you haven’t seen The Office, there’s your date right there.

12. Play VR games together. Or watch VR porn together! Or watch each other watch VR porn! The virtual reality options are endless.

13. Donate blood. Kinda creepy? Kinda cute? Kinda perfect.

14. Read a book together. Take turns reading aloud, and pass the book between chapters. Bonus points if you use different voices for different characters.

15. Make a movie. With like, costumes and scripts and cheesy transitions post-production. Or make a “movie,” also with costumes, scripts, and cheesy transitions. Just don’t forget to turn off iCloud!

16. Have a Zoom date. If you haven’t already, that is. Zoom dating doesn’t have to be an awkward stand-in for an in-person date. There are bennies to Zoom dating that might make you actually prefer doing a first Zoom date over ~meeting for drinks.~

17. Take a sex workshop together. These have been around forever, both in person and online, but the online option makes it extra convenient for These Times™ and if you’re feeling shy.

18. Take a non-sex workshop together. Not every couple is gonna wanna sign up for “A Beginner’s Guide to Shibari” and that’s cool! Good thing there are plenty of other options out there. Check CourseHourse for some ideas, or just Google classes for a mutual shared interest and see what’s out there. Even YouTube tutorials count here!

19. Go roller-skating. One order of TikTok fame, right this way. If you haven’t done it before or simply need some brushing up, here are some helpful tips for how to roller skate and plays where you can get a cute-ass pair of skates.

20. Go to a plant nursery and buy some starter plants to grow a lil garden together. Grow annual flowers for just one season, perennials that come back each and every year, or quick veggies for a cute date idea that lends itself almost too perfectly for a follow-up activity: making dinner together.

21. Go through a corn maze together. Corn stalks: a great way to find out if you’d survive in a horror movie together.

22. Go on a hiking date. ONLY if you’re both independently into hiking, that is.

23. Register to vote. You can register to vote from your couches! Besides, what’s sexier than being like, triply, absolutely sure that you’re indeed registered to vote in the correct state?

24. Sign up to be poll workers together. Yay to civic responsibility as election workers and yay to a fun activity where you can show off your cute couple vibes and feel good about what you’re doing! Plus, you only get this option every few years, so that makes it extra special.

25. Sign up to phone bank together. Kinda like being a poll worker, you get the warm fuzzy feels of being a good citizen and you can do it from the comfort of your home. Google phone banking opportunities near you and see what’s up.

26. Get flu shots together. Because while we’re on the topic of Being Good Citizens, this is extra important in the COVID years.

27. Make masks together. No sewing skills involved! Plus, who says you have to ditch your face coverings post-vaccine? Hide my face and look cute? Yes, pls.

28. Take a drive to nowhere. Plus, shopping for disgusting road trip snacks is half the fun. #PassTheFunyuns

29. Try one of those at-home workout classes. Up to you if you wanna spring for a Peloton that only one person at a time can ride, but there’s tons of other workouts on Youtube for free with little to no equipment involved.

30. Play video games. Yes, Mario Kart can make your sex life better.

31. Go out to dinner and order for each other. See if the other person likes what you get for them. Do you know them well enough to get them a comfortable, familiar staple? Do you know them better than they know themselves so much that they wind up loving your order even though they’d never get it themselves?

32. Make TikToks together. Try your hand at a TikTok challenge or try to make a new one up. Also, TBH, who doesn’t kinda wanna be part of a TikTok famous couple?

33. Play an online Co-Op game together. Anything like Jackbox or Among Us! There are plenty of options even for just two players.

34. Have a spa day. Treat each other to massages, facial treatments (as in the skincare one), and pedis.

35. Go to therapy together. Even if you don’t *think* you need therapy, it might be helpful and at the very least you’ll uncover new stuff about each other!

36. Watch all of Star Wars together front to back. Start with the prequels and end with The Rise of Skywalker (2019).

37. Now watch all of Star Wars together back to front. The Rise of Skywalker (2019) going backwards and ending with the prequels. Seeing Anakin young at the very end hits different, it really does.

38. Watch all Star Wars movies in order of release. As in, the way they were released, so A New Hope (1977), and ending with The Rise of Skywalker (2019). Chaotic, right?

39. Repeat the three viewing orders above with all the Marvel movies. Promise, this list is not just a scheme to get you to sign up for Disney+. It’s just that there’s something soothing about knowing you have like 90+ hours of entertaining action movies ahead of you. It’s like binge TV watching, but even more bingey because they’re filmés and not just 30-minute episodes.

40. Watch all the Fantastic Four movies. Can you name all the differences? There’ve been so many, right? Better look into this with some investigative research.

41. Dye each other’s hair. Bleach each other’s hair and go for fun colors, or try a less dramatic dye job with a non-bleaching option.

42. Cut each other’s hair. This is like the at-home IKEA test for couples. Can you survive a haircut by your S.O. without getting in a huge fight? Not for the lighthearted, but if you wanna do this, we support it. Dye can be washed out if you get the right formula, but a haircut takes longer to fix (aka grow out).

43. Give an old piece of furniture a makeover. Hit up the curb alert section of your local Craigslist (the OG curbside delivery) and get out the sanders and the paint.

44. Attend a virtual cooking class. It can be a live class, or even following a Youtube recipe.

45. Start a pyramid scheme together. Just kidding! Or am I? You too could join hundreds of independ—

46. Make fancams of each other. What could be cuter than getting a fancam of yourself from your partner?

47. Start a stan Twitter account together. Where else are you going to share your fancam?

48. Prank call together. The couple that annoys together, stays together.

49. Get married. As like, a joke, but is it??? Just kidding, don’t get married because you’re thirsty for date ideas—only get married on a whim because you love starting drama together!

50. Write each other love letters. Classic for a reason, people! You can go with the timeless handwritten one, a bunch of little ones that they open at pre-specified times, or anything you want! Spending time complimenting and appreciating your partner and hearing them do the same for you is such a surefire way to feel gushy fast.

51. Create a Sims family together. Put your fave celebs in a house and see what happens, or create Sims of your own selves and play it out. Either way, getting lost in a Sims spiral is just like one of the most fun things you can do from home.

52. Buy karaoke mics and do karaoke anywhere. They’re pretty cheap on Amazon and it’s just fun to hold a mic up to your face and pretend sometimes. Bring the karaoke bar experience to one person’s place or even do this via FaceTime. In fact, why be limited to houses? They’re wireless, so you could do karaoke anywhere! Your cars! A CVS parking lot! A dark alley!

53. Make pasta together. Ghost but instead of the pottery wheel, it’s the hand cranking eroticism of a pasta crank.

54. Stare at a lava lamp for 42 minutes straight. What philosophical dilemmas might a glob of paraffin wax surface in your relationship? Only one way to find out.

55. Get lost in Wikipedia spirals together. Start on different pages and see how many in-article link clicks to get to the same page. But TBH, you’ll probably get sidetracked being so fascinated by everything on there, and that’s okay, too!

56. Raise chickens together. For eggs! The eggs! (Alternatively, just to have as pets you love and cherish, etc. is also cool.)

57. Go to TJ Maxx together. The IRL equivalent of a Wikipedia spiral, in the best way.

58. Bedazzle Febreeze bottles together like Khloe Kardashian. This craft lives in my mind rent-free and now it can be in yours too :)

59. Set up a tripod and recreate paparazzi pics of Travis Barker and Kourtney Kardashian together. Butt-grabbing MUST be included or it doesn’t count.

60. Get a cheap tie-dye kit and go HAM. Repurpose some old sweats for a custom cute work-from-home gear makeover.

61. Set up an inflatable pool together. People in warm climates year round: What’s it like to be one of the lucky ones?

62. Hit up the nearest bar with a working jukebox. If you don't have a Google Maps list of jukebox bars, um, WYD? Give each other $2 each to choose the best songs available and compare your impeccable tastes in music.

63. Go grocery shopping together. Pushing past aggressive shoppers for the last crown of broccoli alone is miserable, but with a ~special someone~? It's a sexy team sport.

64. Spend an hour planning out future dates. Power! Of! Positive! Thinking! Also, a good way to get a partner who's usually too chill to make plans to actually make plans.

65. Take a boxing class together. Even if you don't feel like punching them, maybe you sort of feel like punching them?

66. Grab a rental car and drive somewhere new. Pretend you're fancy and reserve a convertible on Zipcar to hit the open road. Even if that road only leads you 15 minutes out of your town.

67. Get pedicures together. Sit in a big, cozy massage chair and spend 45 minutes getting just as intimate as you are relaxed.

68. Plan a fake vacation together. Remember that game you played as a kid where you'd spin a globe, see where your finger landed, and pretend you were flying out immediately? Do the same (but like, with the internet) and see how well your vacay styles mesh.

69. Crash a party. Find a work happy hour at a nearby bar, a wedding in a park, whatever—throw on some nice-ish clothes and pretend you know someone.

70. Play hide 'n seek. Always and forever the flirtiest game.

71. Teach them how to do something new. Maybe you've still got your old soccer tricks or are like, really good at knitting. Teach them how to do something you love and show off your skills at the same time.

72. Play a private game of Never Have I Ever. You said you wanted to get to know each other...

73. Create a dinner out of only food truck stuff. Your town *definitely* has at least one—go hit up your local food truck parks and create the most gourmet meal possible.

74. Go axe throwing together. This is apparently a thing now, so um, go do it?

75. Plan a dinner party. See how well you work together in the kitchen and show off your skills (or mess) to your pals.

76. Find a photo booth. You know what to do.

77. Hit up a protest together. Lord knows there are plenty worth your participation.

78. Unearth your childhood/teen photos. They're buried on your Facebook and you know it. Nothing bonds like relishing awk memories together.

79. Go furniture shopping at an antique store. Looking for lil tchotchkes at a great steal? Sounds perfect.

80. Go to IKEA. It's the total opposite of thrift store shopping and yet just as fun. Also, if your flirtation can survive this, it can survive an-y-thing.

81. Volunteer in your community. Clean up a beach or read to kiddos together.

82. Take a trip to a nearby tourist destination. Is there a big state park you've both always lived super close to but never visited? Now's the time.

83. Go to an aquarium. Look, animals (even FISH) are really cute. We don't make the rules.

84. Go to a zoo. Ditto for land animals.

85. Take on a project and go to Home Depot. Knock out your chores and show off your electric drill expertise all in one date.

86. Go to the library together. Wander through the stacks and see what you two can bond over. Libraries forever.

87. Take a bunch of personality quizzes. Are you a Khaleesi or an Arya, a blueberry pop tart or an unfrosted strawberry one? None of this affects your relationship, except, um, it totally does and it's fun.

88. Go to a psychic together. Don't trust your own romantic instincts? Let a professional take your relationship to the stars.

89. Go on a walking tour. At worst, you spent $10 on a corny thing you can laugh at together, and at best, you learn a bunch of cool stuff with a really cool person.

90. Go shopping together. Give each other a budget and an occasion (like new work clothes or something to wear to a party) and style each other.

91. Go on a scavenger hunt. Set parameters like how many clues you both get and see how fast you can solve them.

92. See a horrible movie. Nothing bonds like hate-spo!

93. Role-play as strangers in a bar. It doesn't even have to be sexual—it can just be funny.

94. Go skateboarding. Doesn't matter if you suck at it, just please wear helmets.

95. Make each other playlists and go on an aimless drive. Listen to each other's bops and see where the night takes you!

96. See an improv show. It's usually cheap or free, and you're almost guaranteed a fun time even if it's horrible.

97. Go for a hike. Exploring nature with your boo is weirdly intimate.

98. Go camping. Cuddling under the stars...what could be more romantic?

99. Do an at-home movie marathon with a theme. Watch everything an actor or actress has done or all the iterations of A Star Is Born or only movies that take place in a certain city.

100. Get a coloring book and just go W-I-L-D. Very therapeutic.

101. Host a dinner party. You can cook everything or have your friends each bring a dish.

102. Host a board game party. Yes, Heads Up counts.

103. Go to an art gallery. Gallery openings are usually free and most of the time, they've got wine and snacks on deck, so you know, that's a THING.

104. Do something low-key competitive like play a game of basketball or Ping-Pong together. Healthy competition never hurt anyone.

105. Try the 36 Questions to Fall in Love. It doesn't work every time, but it is a fun conversation starter.

106. Look at adoptable pets online. You know, for *someday.*

107. Go to an open house. It really doesn't matter how far into your relationship you are/aren't—snooping around other people's houses and just being in the mind-set of "playing house" is objectively VERY FUN.

108. De-clutter your lives together. You can trade off, for fairness: KonMari their place this weekend and yours the next.

109. Go to a pumpkin patch. It's cute, it's romantic, and then, at the end, you get to use knives in a fun way!

110. Go on a museum date. Art! And staring at things as a way to fill any awkward silences.

111. Have dinner and see a movie. Eating food and watching someone tell you stories is a classic for a reason.

112. Take a long walk together. You don't need a destination because you have each other. Aww.

113. Go on a picnic. Few things are more romantic than packing up an old-fashioned picnic. If you've never done this, now's the time.

114. Go strawberry/blueberry/whateverberry picking. There's something eternally cute about even the mere act of asking someone to go strawberry picking with you that you don't even really have to go strawberry picking. It still counts.

115. Go horseback riding. You both might get thrown from the horse and then you'll get to spend time together in a hospital bed. So cute.

116. Go to a pottery class. One word, one movie: Ghost.

117. Go apple picking. Preferably you're both wearing flannel and frolicking in leaves, and then later, cider happens!

118. Take a painting class. One word, one movie: Titanic.

119. Find a rollercoaster and ride it. Literally impossible to live more than one hour away from an amusement park in this country.

120. Take a cooking class. One word, one movie. Ratatouille. (Surprisingly sweet love story there, too!)

121. Go to the opera. Anything you get to dress super fancy for is instant romance. Plus, singing! Plus, if you're younger than 30, there's prob a deal for "young patrons" that makes this a secretly affordable date.

122. Go to the ballet. Have you seen Black Swan? That could get romantic or deadly. Totally worth price of admission (also, see above note about young patrons!).

123. Go plant shopping together. If you aren't living in an apartment that's also basically a jungle, you aren't living in the 21st century.

124. Go waterskiing. It's like regular skiing except with more water.

125. Grab drinks at a bar. Go to your favorite bar or a totally new bar or a bar you'd never go in. Mix it up! Classic because it's easy and good.

126. Have a coffee date. It's super casual and no one will puke on your shoes after.

127. Go to a house party together. Maybe they're your friends, maybe they're mutual friends. Either way, you get out of the house and into someone else's free booze.

128. Fly a kite. This is surprisingly wonderful because no one ever does this and you feel a little bit like a kid again. Perfect.

129. Go to the beach. Gorgeous water, lots of sun, and both of you are kind of naked!

130. Go skiing. Because it'll make you super cold, which gives you an excuse to warm each other up later.

131. Play kickball. Get a bunch of your friends, grab a ball, and hit the park for a simple, but super fun game you can tease each other about later.

132. Go to a bed and breakfast. It's like a date inside someone else's house!

133. Go to trivia night at a bar. What's more fun than proving you know more than the person with whom you're on a date? Nothing.

134. Go to a sports game. Watch other people win and lose and sit there and judge them. Also, sports have the best snacks.

135. Go to the park. Sit on a bench, lie in the grass. You're already imagining yourself there right now and it feels cool, doesn't it?

136. Go see a play. Even if it's not good, it's local theater. Sit in the back and make out.

137. Go to a water park. There are slides, and also, once again: You're kinda naked.

138. Make out in the backseat of your car. It's like you're 16 again with no curfew and you actually know what you're doing.

139. Go to a hookah bar. Because, um, you can?

140. Go to a farmers' market. And make a whole picnic lunch out of your new, organic spoils.

141. Get brunch. There's booze, there's food, and you just woke up next to each other. What's not great about that?

142. Go to the club. Dressing up like freaks, dancing like freaks—it's a great time.

143. Go to a haunted house. If it's scary, it'll bring you closer. If it's cheesy, you can make fun of it, which will bring you closer. Win-win.

144. Go to a workout class. Best case scenario: You get fit and have a great time. Worst case scenario: You use them to get a referral credit on ClassPass.

145. Go birdwatching. If it gets boring you can just go have sex.

146. Go on a brewery tour. Usually there are beer samples so you can get drunk in a place that's like a semi-education beer class.

147. Go to a bookstore. You haven't read that???

148. Go to a record store. You haven't heard that???

149. Go to a cheese tasting. "Hmm, this one tastes slightly less gross than that one. How divine!"

150. Make a new recipe together. Yet another excuse to buy a cookbook with beautiful photos inside.

151. Bake together. Baking is harder than it looks, but flour fights could happen so it's worth trying. Also, once again: new cookbook.

152. Go whale watching. Can't see any whales? Oh well. You have each other.

153. Play Twister. You know how this ends.

154. Go to karaoke. Making fun of yourself is always a turn-on. And you will definitely do that.

155. Go paddleboarding. Who doesn't love trying to balance so they don't fall in a lake?

156. Or skimboarding. Live closer to a beach than a lake? Do this instead.

157. Go to the botanical gardens. Gorgeous flowers everywhere make everything smell and look amazing. Nothing is better.

158. Solve a puzzle. A great bonding activity, especially because your hands will be too busy to mindlessly use your phone on your date.

159. Go bowling. If you hate bowling, then there are always the pitchers of beer.

160. Play laser tag. Is this for kids? No. Well, yeah, but that doesn't make it any less fun.

161. See a drive-in movie. It's like a regular movie except inside a car.

162. Ride go-karts. Loser has to give the winner a (sensual) massage.

163. Take a hot air balloon ride. It's like a cramped, romantic picnic…in the air.

164. Go ice skating. Classic.

165. Go to the roller rink. Like a warm ice skating rink.

166. Take a flamenco dancing class. It's more erotic than square dancing.

167. Sign up for Tough Mudder. Some people think this is fun.

168. Go paintballing. Take out some of that pent-up aggression.

169. Walk someone's dog together. Sign up for Wag and pretend you own all the dogs your apartment can't actually accommodate.

170. Go to a concert. Go see some local band in your town or a giant arena show.

171. Go on a double date. Take any of these dates and do that with two more people. This list just became 446 date ideas.

172. Take a falconry class. This is the kind of date the Kennedy family would go on.

173. Go skeet shooting. Like hunting, but ethical.

174. Go to a vineyard and try wine tasting. It's like you're the people in Sideways.

175. Book a dinner cruise. Boats are romantic. Dinners are romantic. This is double romantic.

176. Go skydiving. If you've got a death wish.

177. Try hang gliding. If you've got a death wish but only sorta.

178. Rock climbing. As long as you have the upper-arm and leg strength.

179. Go to an open mic night. There's a 25 percent chance you'll actually see someone great and a 100 percent chance you'll get accidentally drunk waiting for it.

180. Go kayaking. It's a great way to see the outdoors and smash into rocks at the same time, like a violent hike.

181. Make your own pizza (including dough) from scratch. Bonus points if you can guess each other's fave toppings.

182. Walk around on a nearby college campus. Low-key, these places are basically giant museums, and this is FREE.

183. Rent a hotel room. Last-minute reservation services like OneNight make this weirdly affordable.

184. Check out a local film festival. This could be laughably terrible, or you could find some really cool off-the-radar films. Either way, you win.

185. Head to a convention. See if something interesting is around and grab tickets for a day. There's always something—tattoos, comics, music, etc.—around.

186. Do a romantic fast food date. Pick up McDonald's, light some candles, put on something silky, and toast to greasy fries and everlasting love.

187. Take a paddleboat ride. Take a tour around a local lake with a paddleboat.

188. Go scuba diving. Alternatively, snorkeling.

189. Swim with dolphins. This will change your life.

190. Drive to a really good view. Maybe it's just from the top of your high school (we won't tell) or maybe you have a really good hilltop—whatever it is, get there and make out on it.

191. Visit your hometown. Showing your partner where you grew up isn't something only Bachelor and Bachelorette contestants can/should do.

192. Have an arcade date. Compete for the highest score. Then make them buy dinner.

193. Volunteer at an animal shelter. You're helping animals and spending quality time.

194. Pan for gold. The only date where you can actually make money!!!!

195. Build a snowman. Feel free to sing that song from that movie.

196. Go sledding. Weeeee!

197. Go snow tubing. Like sledding but way more intense.

198. Take a pole-dancing class together. This is sexy and funny (and a legit workout).

199. Go holiday shopping together. Buying stuff for other people, with another person.

200. Stay in and cuddle. Simple, yet effective.

201. Go to the circus. When was the last time you were at the circus?

202. Watch a sunset. Or if you like waking up early, a sunrise.

203. Paint each other. Like, paint a picture of each other. Or just paint on each other, I guess.

204. Go spelunking. Get your mind out of the gutter. It's cave exploring.

205. See fireworks. Or make your own show (if you live in a place where it's legal).

206. Go for a boat ride. It's like going on a long drive, except on the water.

207. Go to a nude beach. Why be naked together in the comfort of your own home when you can be naked in front of a bunch of strangers?

208. Visit a dog park. This is all the fun of having a dog without taking one home and having to pick up its poop!

209. Postmates them a dinner order you think they'll love. And they do the same for you. No telling until they both arrive and you've gotta eat it no matter what!

210. Take public transit to the end of the line. Support local transit and go somewhere new.

211. Spend the whole day doing only new things. And "new" only counts if neither of you have done it. Basically a rom-com in the making.

212. Go to a murder mystery dinner. Dinner *and* a show—what could be better? Bonus points to the person who figures out whodunnit first.

213. Watch a murder doc. Basically, anything involving murder = a good, sexy time. Unless you're the one being murdered/doing the murdering, ofc.

214. Try an escape room. And if you never get out, then at least you're stuck together <3.

215. Do some geocaching. Geocaching is like a real-life treasure hunt where you use hunt down hidden containers, and you can check out Geocaching to get started.

216. Hang out at a cat café. Unless you're allergic to cats, in which case, don't.

217. Play Frisbee golf. Unlike regular golf, Frisbee golf requires little skill and far less walking around.

218. Throw around a Frisbee. It's all the fun of Frisbee golf with fewer objectives.

219. Go on a ghost tour. If you and your boo are into all things creepy, then a ghost tour gives you a chance to learn some history and get a lil creeped out (or just lol @ the ppl who get creeped out).

220. Visit a break bar or wrecking room. ICYMI, "rage rooms" are all the rage rn (heh).

221. Make a pillow fort. The bigger, the better.

222. Have a pillow fight. Preferably in your underwear.

223. Create vision boards. Visualization is the key to actualization, friends.

Carina Hsieh, Hannah Smothers and Rachel Varina

Monday 19 December 2022

100 best health tips to help you live well

 Small, simple changes can make the biggest difference.

Improving your health doesn't need to mean making huge, scary adjustments. You don't need to follow a strict diet or start a vigorous workout regime to live well, stretch the years of your life and make them happier and more energised.

Making simple and easy tweaks to your lifestyle can make all the difference – like adding more herbs to your meals, standing more than you sit, taking up gardening and watching yoga videos on YouTube.

When it comes to our health, there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach, and only you will know the areas where you need to make changes in order to feel your absolute best. Perhaps you want to improve your sleep, maybe you want to work on your stress levels, or perhaps you want to keep your heart and lungs fighting fit. So to help you on your way, we have gathered 100 of the best health and wellbeing tips here in one place for you. Get ready for a healthier, happier you...

Health tips on how to live well

1. Sit on the floor

OK, it may not be as comfy as your super-squashy sofa, but according to studies of the world’s longest-living populations, sitting on the floor can help us stay healthier for longer. For example, in Okinawa in Japan, home to the longest-living women in the world, most sitting, whether to read, eat or talk, is done on the floor. The reason it’s so beneficial? Repeatedly standing from a seated position on the floor is good for flexibility, strength and co-ordination, which are all known to have favourable influences on life expectancy.

2. Drip with health

A small knob of butter or light drizzle of oil on veggies isn’t just delicious, but can be health helpful, too. “Some nutrients, such as vitamins A, D, E and K (found in green vegetables and sweet potatoes) are fat soluble so a smidgen of fat, such as olive oil, helps with nutrient absorption,” says Ian Marber, a leading independent nutrition therapist (ianmarber.com).

3. Wean off wine o’clock

A glass of wine in the evening might help you fall asleep, but can impact the quality of your slumber, leaving you sluggish the following day. To help prevent this, avoid drinking close to bedtime to give your body time to process the alcohol. As a rough guide, it’s thought to take one hour for your body to process one unit of alcohol, although this varies between individuals. To find out more about the units in your drink – and to ensure you’re not exceeding the maximum 14 units a week – use the Unit Calculator on drinkaware.co.uk.

4. Cuddle up

In one study, volunteers who had regular hugs over a two-week period were found to be less likely to catch a cold. It’s believed this is because hugs are one of the fastest ways to get the feel-good chemical oxytocin flowing in the body, which helps to reduce stress and, in turn, protect immunity.

5. Know the three Cs

More of us are suffering from hay fever than ever before, with reactions lasting longer and affecting those who haven’t suffered previously. “The interaction of pollen with rising pollution, as well as climate change, are added factors,” says Dr Beverley Adams-Groom, chief palynologist at the University of Worcester. Reducing your exposure to pollen is key so know the three Cs: Count (check the Met Office’s pollen forecast); Cover (try big sunglasses, Vaseline around your nose, and closing the windows when the pollen count is high); and Clean (when you come home, shower, change clothing; and wipe down pets with a wet cloth).

6. Watch dry fruit

Delicious dried fruits like apricot, fig and mango are very high in sugar, so it’s worth keeping your intake in check. Aim for 30g – or about 1tbsp – which counts as one of your five-a day.

7. Listen to your gut

Have you noticed how your stomach reflects what you’re feeling emotionally? If you’re stressed or anxious this can slow digestion, triggering bloating, pain and constipation, but in other people it may speed up digestion causing diarrhoea and frequent trips to the loo. So, when feeling angsty, don’t rush your food. Take time to eat slowly, put your fork down between bites, and chew each mouthful well.

8. Get your vitamin green

It’s official: surrounding yourself with green views has a powerful effect on health and wellbeing, reducing psychological stress and boosting energy, self-esteem, and mood. As well as regularly getting out in nature, position the chairs in your house so you naturally gaze out of the windows, fill your home with indoor plants, and set your computer screensaver to your favourite landscape. 

9. Be snack savvy

Know the four Ps for smart snacking on the go: Plan, Pack, Protein and Produce. So, Plan ahead; Pack your snacks in spill-proof containers; include Protein to keep you satisfied for longer; and add fibre-rich fresh Produce like fruit or vegetables. An apple with Greek yogurt, a cheese stick, or a few nuts, can satisfy your cravings in a healthier way.

10. Nail it

Podiatrists see 10,000 ingrown toenails each year. The problem develops when the sides of the toenail grow into the surrounding skin, causing redness, inflammation, and sometimes infection. Ouch! To keep them at bay, don’t use nail scissors. Instead, use clippers to cut straight across the nail and avoid cutting them too short.

11. Morning, sunshine!

“Throwing back your curtains in the morning can help you to sleep better at night,” says Dr Alanna Hare, a consultant in sleep medicine. “This is because light is key in regulating our sleep patterns and so getting natural sunlight helps sync your body’s sleep/wake cycle.”

12. Reap what you sew

Mindfulness – noticing your thoughts, feelings, emotions and bodily sensations – is proven to deal with stress and anxiety, and is even recommended by NICE (National Institute of Clinical Excellence) as a way of helping to prevent depression. Looking for a new way to give it a try? Try embroidery, which ticks all the mindfulness boxes because you must slow down and focus on the task in hand. For a new project, try DMC The Mindful Mandala Embroidery Duo Kit (£20, John Lewis).

13. Love your lentils

Add red lentils to your next spaghetti bolognese or shepherd’s pie. They have a ‘meaty’ taste, which means they can be easily added to mince meals for a higher-fibre supper. Cutting down on meat? Replace your beef altogether.

14. Win with one

Always think ‘can I add one more set/movement?’ when you exercise. So, if you cycle around the park five times, make it six; if you’re playing tennis, play another set. That one little push of movement in the end will get you fitter faster, plus you’ll realise you can do more than you give yourself credit for, which is powerful fitness fuel.

15. Habit stack

Pair a ‘must do’ with a ‘should do’ and see those good habits stack up. For instance, while you’re shaving your legs, check your moles for changes; while you’re waiting for the kettle to boil, do some gentle stretches; when you’re making your dental appointment, book your smear or mammogram, too.

16. Good mood food

No, you’re not imagining it: feeling 'hangry' – or hungry-angry – is a real thing. This is because, unlike other organs, your brain relies on a drip-drip-drip supply of glucose throughout the day to stay properly fuelled so, if you don’t eat regularly or you skip meals, you won’t feel your best. As well as eating regularly, drop your fear of fat. The brain is made up around 50 per cent fat, and our cells need good quality fats to maintain their structure so consider good fats those found in olive oil, nuts, seeds, and avocados. 

17. Upgrade your terrain

Move your usual walk or run to the beach or rugged countryside. The reason? Soft surfaces, such as sand and grass provide no rebound, which means your muscles must work harder.

18. Sneak your eats

A serving of vegetables doesn’t have to be a side of green beans or a big salad. A tablespoon of tomato puree stirred into your pasta sauce, a handful of olives instead of crisps, or a bag of watercress whizzed into your pesto counts, too.

19. Get real on self-care

Self-care isn’t just about long baths and facials to live well. It’s about dealing with obstacles that are causing havoc with your health or happiness, whether that’s learning to say ‘no’ or carving out more time for yourself. There’s lots of super-inspiring self-care podcasts available right now – we’re enjoying Self Care Club by Lauren Mishcon and Nicole Goodman; Happy Place by Fearne Cotton; and Feel Better, Live More by Dr Rangan Chatterjee.

20. Hit the water

Swimming in ponds, lakes, rivers or the open sea is even better than a dip in the local pool as you have to work against the waves or current. For a gentle introduction to outdoor swimming, try a lido, or find inspiration and all-important safety advice at outdoorswimmingsociety.com and wildswimming.co.uk.

21. Sit for attention

We know our standing posture is important for our bone, joint and muscle health, but did you know many of us need to tweak how we sit, too? The most important thing to know is that, when sitting on a chair for prolonged periods, your feet should be flat on the floor. There should be a small gap between the back of your knees and the seat, with your knees at or below hip level. If your legs are too short to reach the ground, a footrest is useful.

22. Achieve pudding perfection

An easy way to eat more fruit is to turn it into dessert. Roasted peaches, figs, plums, and apples make flavourful sweet treats that are packed with fibre and antioxidants. Serve with plain yogurt or half-fat crème fraiche to replace the double cream.

23. Diversify your diet

Enjoying a wider variety of plants to feed your gut microbes is a simple science-backed way to improve your health. The easiest way to do it is to mix up your existing diet. So, go for mixed coloured bags of peppers instead of your usual red; pick up tins of mixed beans to replace kidney beans; reach for the mixed frozen veg or stir-fry pack rather than one variety; and snack on mixed nuts instead of plain almonds.

24. Watch out for coffee creep

Did you know coffee is one of the largest sources of antioxidants in our diets? But caffeine can also release high levels of cortisol, a stress hormone. If you’ve become over reliant on coffee to get through the day – and have the headaches and jitters to prove it – try brewed cacao in the afternoon. It’s ‘coffee’ but made with cacao beans instead of coffee beans. Try Peru Trailblazer from Cacao Brew.

25. Chase persistence, not perfection

If you get one flat tyre, you don’t slash the other three. When you stub your toe, you don’t turn around and stub another. So, why let one bad meal or day of eating turn into weeks and months of bad eating; or one missed workout turn into weeks of doing nothing? Avoid getting derailed by remembering it’s what you do most of the time that matters, not those occasional blips. In other words: chase persistence, not perfection.

26. Do a bra inventory

Some experts say we should replace our bras every six months, which is equivalent to 180 wears, because natural wear and tear from being worn and washed, means our bras can’t boast the same support they once did. “An unsupportive bra can trigger back, neck and shoulder pain, and poor posture,” says Sammy Margo, a leading physiotherapist (sammymargophysiotherapy.com). Tell-tale signs your bra needs replacing include if it’s loose on its tightest hook and eye, it has overstretched straps, or the back curves upwards rather than straight across your back.

27. Get supplement savvy

Did you know one in ten of us have mistakenly brought fake medical products? If you take health supplements, ensure you always buy from a registered chemist, pharmacy or reputable retail outlet rather than a random website or via social media. If you’re shopping online, look out for the logos that indicate it’s a safe platform. Find out more at the Fake Meds government webpage.

28. Hit up those herbs

Herbs are plants just like vegetables and pack a real health punch. Add digestive-easing fresh mint to hot or cold water, antioxidant-packed rosemary to meats, and bloat-easing parsley to warm lentils.

29. Upgrade your smile

Brushing only cleans 70 per cent of your teeth’s surface so flossing is non-negotiable. Interdental brushes can be a game-changer for reaching hard-to-reach-spots, but the choice can be overwhelming so ask your dentist for advice on which to get.

30. Get inner fit while you brush

Kegels are the exercise equivalent of a Martini: an anytime, anyplace, anywhere affair, yet we don’t do them as much as we should. But when it comes to our pelvic floor strength, it’s a case of use it or lose it. While you’re waiting for the traffic lights to change, draw up all your pelvic floor muscles at the same time, squeeze, lift, and hold for a count of 5-10 seconds, before letting go gently and counting to five. Repeat 10-15 times.

31. Take a call, add movement

Stand up and move around every time you take a phone call. As a rule of thumb, for every hour you sit, you should move around for at least two minutes.

32. Sow seeds

Seeds are the building block of the plants they’re meant to be, making them small but seriously mighty. Adding two tablespoons of fibre-rich flaxseeds to your cereal, salads or baking gives you 133 per cent of your daily omega-3 fats (normally found in fish oils) as well as plant-based protein. 

33. Get involved outside

A study by the Wildlife Trust found that two thirds of its volunteers, who did jobs like improving hedgerows and building bird tables in the open air, reported better mental health within six to 12 weeks. The researchers believe this is because wildlife rich environments not only keep you physically healthy, but help to reduce stress, improve mood, and reduce social isolation. Many charities list their volunteering options such as the wildlifetrust.org.uk, nationaltrust.org.uk, and rspb.org.uk.

34. Vroom your ‘shrooms

Leaving mushrooms in direct sunlight for 20 minutes before eating enhances their vitamin D content. Clever, huh?

35. Double book

Back troubling you but also want to discuss your blood pressure medication? If you have numerous issues to discuss with your doctor, don’t book one GP appointment, but a double. This will give you more time to talk through each individual problem with your GP so you don’t feel rushed.

36. Try the ‘relaxation response’

Pick a focus word with peaceful connotations (eg. calm, relax, or love), then close your eyes and gently relax your muscles, breathing slowly. Each time you breathe out, repeat your focus word silently, dismissing any other thoughts and repeating your mantra. It may sound too simple to be effective, but it’s been found to calm breathing, reduce blood pressure and heart rate, and slash stress.

37. Layer up

Let’s talk fibre: 90 per cent of us aren’t getting enough. Fibre doesn’t just reduce our risk of constipation, but is also associated with a lower risk of heart disease, stroke, type 2 diabetes, and bowel cancer. Switching to wholegrain versions of pasta, bread, cereals, rice, couscous and noodles is a swift way to up your intake. You could also try adding beans, lentils or chickpeas to stews, curries and salads; padding out meals with vegetables; and snacking on fruit and unsalted nuts or seeds.

38. Get some big blue

Simply staring out over the water could help you reach a mildly meditative state called ‘blue mind’, which gives you a feeling of calm and happiness. What better excuse for a day at the seaside?

39. Step it up

According to a poll by YouGov for Ramblers, Britain’s largest walking charity, nearly a third of respondents saw themselves as ‘health walkers’ who walked regularly to improve their wellbeing. If you want to get fit and meet new friends as well as live well, why not join a walking group? Take a look at Ramblers. Alternatively, Walking For Health supports those with health concerns, including mental health. If you’d prefer to go it alone, try the Go Jauntly app to discover walking inspiration near you. Oh, and don’t forget to include hills, which are the ‘walker’s gym’, increasing calorie burn by up to 60 per cent.

40. Sign up for kitchen karaoke

It takes just 50 milliseconds – that’s 1/20th of a second – for music to lift your mood, says research. Want to get an even bigger boost? Sing along.

41. Don’t rush the rinse

Many of us keep mouthwash sink side, but don’t make the common mistake of rinsing your mouth with it (or water) straight after brushing or you’ll wash away the concentrated fluoride in your toothpaste.

42. Repeat after us

Motivational mantras to inspire you to exercise may seem cheesy, but they really could help get you get out of that door (yep, even when it’s raining). Try these for size…

    Even if I only manage 2-minutes running, I’ll still be lapping everyone on the couch

    I’m stronger than my exercise excuse

    I will feel great afterwards

43. Sharpen your footwork – and mind

A major study published in the New England Journal Of Medicine found mastering dance step sequences, like the foxtrot, exercised your brain as well as your feet. Anything social is also fantastic for your grey matter – try ballroom, salsa, ceroc (a mix of jive and salsa), or line dancing.

44. Screen your screens

If you find you’re wired rather than tired in the evening, have an ‘electronic sundown’ by turning off all screens by 10pm to stop the blue light lowering your levels of the sleep-promoting hormone melatonin. Need to use your electricals in the twilight hours? Download the app f.lux, which adjusts your computer or phone screen to act like daylight – so it’s like sunlight during the day, and warm and dark in the evenings.

45. Hit the sweet spot

Forget sugar-laden drinks and grab a chia tea containing ‘sweet-tasting’ spices like cinnamon. Research has found cinnamon helps to keep blood sugar levels on an even keel, meaning you’ll be less tempted by those chocolate brownies. Try Twinings Spicy Chai, £3.15, which makes a delicious chia latte when made with milk.

46. Supercharge your stride

Tag squats, jumping jacks, press-ups, or lunges onto the end of your walk for a full body workout.

47. Tune in

Daily breath work isn’t hot air – it’s proven to slash the stress hormone cortisol. When you’re having your morning shower, try the 3-4-5 technique: breathe in for three seconds, hold for four seconds, and breathe out for five seconds.

48. Think 50 per cent

When plating up meals, always serve vegetables first, ensuring they fill half your plate, and you’ll find it easier to boss a healthier mealtime balance.

49. Buy theatre tickets, not shoes

Research has found experiences make us happier, not things. So, instead of filling your home with items you don’t want or need, fill your life with hobbies, learning experiences, travel, meeting new people, or whatever else gives you a renewed sense of purpose.

50. Grow salad

Embrace the trend for a ‘wellness kitchen’ by installing a living salad on your windowsill. As the lettuce grows, roots intact, you can be sure it stays fresh for longer, helping to maintain its nutritional content.

51. Introduce the weekend ‘rule of three’

Don’t overfill your weekend with domestic drudgery – you’ll only end up wallowing in woe and you won’t feel great come Monday morning. “Happiness doesn’t just ‘happen’ – research shows it also comes from thinking, planning and pursuing things that are important to us,” says Dr Mark Williamson, director of Action For Happiness (actionforhappiness.org). So, introduce the Rule Of Three this weekend by doing three non-essential but upbeat tasks – for instance, flick through photo albums, visit a museum, or go for a walk with a friend.

52. Get free health inspo

There are endless ways to get healthy that don’t require fancy equipment or membership fees – from picking up a second hand bike on Freecycle, to free workouts on YouTube such as Yoga With Adriene. Also, don’t forget the library: it’s fab for healthy-eating cookbooks in book or ebook format.

53. Reap sole benefits

When you have your feet up, ‘write’ the alphabet with your toes. A strong ‘foot core’ is good for posture.

54. Take the talk tests

To judge the intensity of a workout, see if you can hold a conversation. It should be easy during a low-to-moderate workout, but challenging if you’re pushing yourself.

55. Bake better

Many recipes – except for jams and meringue – can lose around a third of the sugar without impacting the final dish. Why not try reducing the sugar content in your recipe and see if anyone notices?

56. Know your numbers

If you have high blood pressure, you’ll know, right? Not necessarily, say the British Heart Foundation, which reports that around five million people in the UK have undiagnosed high numbers. If high blood pressure is left undiagnosed and untreated, it can cause your heart to become enlarged, making your heart pump less effectively, increasing your risk of a heart attack, stroke, kidney disease as well as vascular dementia. “Get your blood pressure measured at least every five years, or yearly if you’re at a heightened risk of cardiovascular disease,” says Professor Graham MacGregor, Chairman of Blood Pressure UK. Your GP or pharmacist can check it.

57. Avoid tech neck

Craning our heads forward over our screens can create intense pressure on the front and backs of our neck, triggering something called ‘tech neck’. To avoid this, always bring your screen, whether a phone, laptop or a tablet, up to meet your eyes, or use a device stand like the Tryone Gooseneck Tablet Stand.

58. Say cheese

Cheese is a bone builder, right? True, but not all cheeses are created equal. “Cheese contains a hefty dose of calcium, but those high in salt such as Roquefort, parmesan, feta, and processed ones aren’t so beneficial for your bones,” says Professor Susan Lanham-New, Head of Nutritional Sciences at the University of Surrey. “This is because when your kidneys excrete excess sodium in your body, some calcium is swept along, so it’s a good idea to vary your calcium sources throughout the day.”

59. Keep a blessings book

A study found that people who wrote down three good things that happen every day for a week were found to be significantly happier than those who didn’t. What better excuse to buy a pretty new notebook?

60. Step out without the ouch

Can’t wait to take your shoes off at the end of the day? Our feet change shape as we get older, especially if we have arthritis, so get measured regularly and try on shoes in the afternoon when your feet have had time to swell, remembering that shops and styles vary greatly. Try M&S, Clarks, Next, Simply Be, and Hotter for wide fitting styles.

61. Tackle concerns head-on

Worry your digestive discomfort might be a symptom of ovarian cancer as that’s what a relative had? Tell your doctor your specific worries. “If you don’t feel your exact concern is being addressed, keep repeating your questions,” says GP Dr Roger Henderson (doctorhenderson.co.uk). “Likewise, if you’re unsure whether your doctor has fully understood your concerns, ask him or her to repeat them back to you.” That way you can be confident you’re both on the same page.

62. Turn it up

Listening to high-tempo tunes can boost your exercise. Research has found it distracts you from ‘body awareness’ (read: pain), while other studies suggest it stimulates heart rate and breathing patterns, helping cells to deliver oxygen to your muscles faster.

63. Super-charge your breakfast

Bored of porridge? Soak oats in apple juice, almond milk, or coconut milk overnight for a ready-by-morning breakfast. Oats contain a type of soluble fibre called beta glycan, which is proven to lower cholesterol. Add fresh fruit, a handful of nuts, and a dollop of kefir yogurt to up the health and yum factor.

64. Turn off the heating

The ideal sleep temperature for restful sleep is 18°C – any higher or lower and you may toss and turn.

65. Can it

Did you know that cheap-and-cheerful tinned sardines (and tinned salmon, pilchards and mackerel) count as oily fish? The NHS say a healthy balanced diet should include a portion of oily fish (140g) every week as it contains long-chain fatty acids, which may help to prevent heart disease. We love to eat ours grilled on toast, stirred into pasta sauces, or with jacket potatoes.

66. Start your day right

Starting your morning with a relaxing ritual, whether that’s meditation or reading, could improve your mental health. “By doing this, you’ll be cultivating what the Danish call morgenfrisk - or morning freshness,” says Rachel Kelly, a mental health campaigner, and author of Singing In The Rain: 52 Practical Steps To Happiness (Short Books). “We experience a flood of the stress hormone cortisol first thing, which gives us the boost we need to get up, but this can also make us anxious. Waking up with a calming routine that’s a pleasant process, whether that’s stretching and deep breathing, or simply giving yourself a moment to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, can be hugely beneficial.”

67. Go to stool school

From slightly cracked sausages to nut-like lumps that are harder to pass, poo comes in all shapes and sizes, often because of what you’ve been eating. “Generally speaking, healthy, high-fibre, and well-hydrated diets trigger happier stools, which are soft, well-formed and easily passed,” says Dr Kinesh Patel, consultant gastroenterologist at The Royal Brompton Hospital in London. To keep your colon content, make fibre your friend (think fruit, vegetables and whole grains) and have water with your meals to help soften stools and prevent constipation.

68. Wake up, get up

Don’t hit snooze. “Have a regular sleep and wake-up schedule – and stick to it – even at weekends,” says Dr Hare. “This programmes the brain and your internal body clock, helping you sleep reliably at bedtime and wake feeling refreshed.”

69. Think treacle

Whether it’s lunges or squats you love, holding weights cranks up the benefits. “Even light ones like ¼ kilo are beneficial as they increase the resistance, upping the muscle-toning benefits,” says physiotherapist Sammy Margo (sammymargophysiotherapy.com). Alternatively, use your mind as an ‘imaginary’ weight by pretending you’re doing each move through treacle, which dials up the resistance without any equipment.

70. Ask the right questions

Every health concern is different, but this checklist could help guide you through your next doctor's appointment.

    What do you think the problem is – and is there anything else it could be?

    What will any tests tell me?

    What treatment do I need and what does it do? Also, how long do I need it for and what do I need to know about it?

    What should I do if I feel worse?

    What’s the next step?

71. Walk to a healthier beat

The latest health update is to focus on brisk walking rather than just hitting 10,000 steps a day. To do this, pump your arms back and forth with your elbows at right angles, because as your arms speed up, your legs follow.

72. Prepare for greatness

Research indicates that meal prep ahead of time leads to more variety, better food quality, and possible weight loss. So, make up dishes you can tuck into throughout the week, whether a roasted vegetable tray bake to stir through salads; a DIY low-sugar muesli for breakfast; or a big batch of lentil soup for the freezer.

73. Go bananas for, er, bananas

Slashing salt, watching your weight, regular exercise and not smoking aren't the only ways to keep your heart healthy. “The mineral potassium naturally helps to lower blood pressure by balancing out the negative effects of salt,” says Professor MacGregor, Chairman of Blood Pressure UK. In fact, one study found that getting enough of this nutrient could reduce your risk of a stroke by 24 per cent. Great sources? Step forward bananas, potatoes and sweet potatoes, pulses, yogurt and milk.

74. Rest for success

Don’t feel guilty about doing nothing. A global study of 18,000 people by Durham University – dubbed the ‘rest test’ – found our ability to properly rest, and our levels of wellbeing, are closely related. Sound too simple to be effective? Research published in the journal Nature says the brain in its ‘do nothing’ resting state is not doing nothing at all, but regulating our emotions, processing experiences, consolidating memories, and keeping us firing on all cylinders.

75. Peep at your pee

It should be pale yellow. If it’s not, it’s a sign you may need to drink more water. Studies show even mild dehyration zaps energy and lowers concentration. If you find it hard to take the suggested amounts, try adding fresh fruit, veg and herbs to water – cucumber and mint has a lovely spa-inspired flavour.

76. Watch those funny puppy videos

Laughing lowers your stress hormones and blood pressure. Need we say more?

77. Brush your tongue

Your tongue can harbour bacteria in your mouth, which can spread to your teeth, increasing your risk of decay. You can brush your tongue with your toothbrush, or even buy a special tongue brusher. Try Dentek Orabrush (£5.20, Boots) – you’ll be amazed how much gunk it removes…

78. Iron out

Iron deficiency is on the rise, perhaps due to a focus away from red meat, but this can lead to anaemia symptoms including a lack of energy, shortness of breath, noticeable heartbeats, and pale skin. If you take a supplement containing iron, pair it with a glass of orange juice, which may help your body absorb the iron. On the flipside, you may want to sidestep tea and coffee, particularly at mealtimes, and foods with high levels of phytic acid, such as wholegrain cereals, as these can stop your body from absorbing iron from food and pills.

79. Clean your handbag

Yucky, but true: one study found that 30 per cent of handbags had traces of faecal matter on the bottom of them, which may be because many of us park our bags on the loo floor or on a washbasin in public toilets. So, always hang your bag on a door hook, and regularly wipe it down with antibacterial spray.

80. Throw open windows

A stuffy atmosphere means house dust mites flourish. A tell-tale sign you may be susceptible? Sneezing when you wake up with sniffles that stop as the day goes on. To keep dust mites at bay, open your bedroom windows, which reduces humidity and microscopic mould, disrupting their food chain.

81. Break the fog

Can’t think straight? Do the go-to yoga move, downward dog. The sudden rush of blood to the head stimulates neurones in the brain, which helps to speed up thinking. Learn how to do it by searching ‘downward dog Yoga with Adriene’ on YouTube.

82. Try green spread

Mash avocado flesh with lemon juice and spread it on a sandwich in lieu of butter. It’s full of good fats and rich in vitamin E.

83. Splash savvy

Crank up your swim with floats and hand paddles to train specific parts of your body. For instance, to work your arms, put a buoy between your ?legs and do breaststroke.

84 Under promise, over deliver

Instead of setting yourself the end goal of running a 10k, aim to run for 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, then 15 minutes, and so on. “Lowering your expectations may sound defeatist but over optimism means every day can feel like a disappointment, which can make you give up,” says Liz Tucker, a health counsellor and author of When You Want To Say Yes, But Your Body Says No (£12.99, Harper Collins). “Instead, slightly under-promise, and majorly over-deliver, and you’ll feel like you’re achieving something.”

85. Use the power of Fri-yay!

Need to book a dentist, doctor, gynae or jab appointment? Book it for a Friday and you’re more likely to be able to make it. One study which looked at more than 4.5 million hospital records, discovered that more people had to bail on appointments made earlier in the week. Mondays had the most no-shows, probably because…well, Mondays.

86. Home truths

Saving your leftovers? Cool and store within 90 minutes and eat within two days (unless freezing) for safe consumption.

87. Break bread together

Research from the University of Oxford shows the more people eat in company, the higher their chances of being satisfied with their lives. Mental Health UK sings its benefits, too, saying that regular shared mealtimes can bring contentment and security, giving us a chance to talk, listen and interact with others. So invite a colleague to lunch and eat up the feel-good factor.

88. Find a furry friend

Spend time with a pet when you need to find calm. Studies show that human/animal interactions reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol, while also reducing feelings of fear and anxiety. Don’t have a pet? A bird feeder in the garden can give you a regular jolt of joy.

89. Exercise and do good

If you’re a runner looking for new feel-great inspiration, try Good Gym (goodgym.org), a scheme in which runners complete community projects, like weed clearing, while getting fit. If you haven’t got one near you, try ‘plogging’ (jogging while picking up litter); or even guide running (guiderunning.uk) to help blind and visually impaired people stay active.

90. Do regular checks in the shower

Familiarising yourself with the look and feel of your breasts is a smart move because tumours can crop up between mammogram screenings. Not sure where to start? Try some TLC: TOUCH – feel for anything unusual; LOOK, for changes; CHECK anything unusual with your doctor.

91. Put zest to the test

According to government findings, we eat more than 8g of salt a day in Britain – that’s 2g more than the recommended maximum . Lowering your salt intake reduces your risk of high blood pressure, and therefore heart disease. Instead of adding salt to your salads or veggies, opt for a citrusy flavour instead, with a little grating of lemon or orange zest. It’s heaven on carrots.

92. Enjoy alone time

Buddying up with a friend can turn a workout into a social event, but mix things up with some go-it-alone activities, too. “A lot of people click with exercise when they see it as a bit of me-time, a chance to escape from everyone and everything,” says personal trainer Sarah Maxwell. Try something solo, such as wake boarding or Pilates.

93. Power up your plants

Millions of us are trying to eat more of a plant-based diet, but it’s useful to know that not all proteins are created equal. “Animal proteins – from meat, fish, eggs and dairy – are complete proteins and provide all the protein building blocks the body needs, whereas plant proteins can be lacking in one or more of these,” says dietitian Priya Tew (dietician.co.uk). But this needn’t be a problem: just mix up your meals with different sources of protein. For instance, if you serve lentils with rice, which both contain protein, the amino acids in one protein will help to compensate for the limitations in the other. “Eat a range of different plant proteins and grains across your week – variety is the key,” adds Priya.

94 Slurp smartly

Juices, smoothies, herbal tea and fruit based drinks contain high levels of phosphoric and citric acid as well as sugar, which can cause dental decay, erosion, cracks and chipping. Avoid this by following these drinks with a ‘chaser’ glass of water, swilling it around your mouth to wash away the acidity and sugar that has come in contact with your teeth. The added bonus? You’ll help slay unsightly stains that coloured drinks can cause.

95. Optimise your TV time

Next time you’re sitting down to enjoy your favourite show, take the opportunity to do some stretching – it’ll help relieve muscle tightness, and help keep you flexible and pain-free. Try using resistance bands, which are a cheap and compact way to maximise your limbering up time.

96. Try soberlizing

Try to ‘soberlize’ (socialise sober) more – meet friends for walks in the park instead of in the pub, or suggest breakfast or brunch which doesn’t come with the same expectation to drink as lunch or dinner can.

97. Spread the love

Random acts of kindness, from giving a compliment to passing on a book you enjoyed, are proven to make us feel good, says a recent World Happiness Report. “Neurological research has found the area of our brain that is activated in response to things like pleasure, food or sex, lights up when we do kind acts for others,” says Meik Wiking, author of The Key To Happiness.

98. Try 'moving meditation'

Finding it hard to make meditation a daily habit? Try moving meditation. “This is where your body and breath become natural allies,” says meditation teacher Lucy Greeves (arvon.org/tutors/lucy-greeves). “You can do it during holistic workouts like yoga and Tai Chi, but you can transform a simple five minute walk just by honing in on your breath – breathing in for three strides, breathing out for four.” It might sound too simple to be effective, but it’ll take you off ‘autopilot’ and leave you feeling ready for anything.

99. Weigh yourself down

Who says you need expensive equipment to get a better workout? Simply pop a big bottle of water into a rucksack whenever you go out for the day and your body will work harder. Better still, you’ve got water whenever you need it.

100. Pass it on

A study by the British Heart Foundation shows that half of us have never discussed our family medical history with loved ones, even though genetic links can put them at an increased risk. So, when your family comes over for lunch, make time to talk.

Nicola Down

Sunday 18 December 2022

8 Simple Ways to Hack Healthy Home Cooking, According to Pro Nutritionists

 As the holiday season ramps up, many of us are spending additional time in the kitchen. Whether this notion is exciting, daunting, or both depends on the individual—but for many, health consciousness is top of mind in stocking our cupboards and rustling up meals. Even if you’re less experienced in the kitchen, you can take comfort in the fact that healthy cooking is an act of self-care. “It’s not a chore, it’s one of the most powerful tools we have to influence our health and nourish our bodies,” says Manhattan-based nutritionist Maria Marlowe, adding that the act of preparing a meal can double as a “moving meditation.”

When prioritizing health and self-care, it’s essential to look beyond pre-made foods as much as possible, says Kimberly Snyder, a Los Angeles–based nutritionist who counts Reese Witherspoon and Kerry Washington as clients. “I find that a lot of people don’t think they are ‘cooks,’ so over-rely on packaged foods, including frozen entrees, canned soups, packaged snacks,” she explains. According to Snyder, making delicious and healthy meals can be easy and simple—it’s just a matter of choosing the right ingredients and knowing how best to prepare them. Here, all the helpful tips you need for healthy cooking, from the best oils to the optimal way to prepare those dark leafy greens.

Shop Fresh and Frozen

Shopping fresh at local markets may be ideal for seasonal vegetables and fresh meat and fish, but don’t discount the frozen food aisle. “I find sometimes people overlook all frozen food as unhealthy, but frozen vegetables and wild seafood are two great options,” says Marlowe. “They are typically just as nutritious, as well as more convenient and less expensive.” As far as what to stock up on in the produce aisle, dark leafy greens are some of the most antioxidant-rich and nutrient-dense foods, while cruciferous vegetables, like broccoli, cauliflower, and cabbage, are well known to support the body’s natural detoxification processes and lower inflammation, says Marlowe.

Stock Your Pantry Wisely

“Being prepared will be your best friend when it comes to making healthy food!” says Snyder, and that doesn’t just apply to fresh ingredients in your fridge. There’s no time like the present to get creative with shelf-stable options. “Fill the pantry with dry staples like quinoa, lentils, and chia seeds that you can always have on hand for quick meal options when you’re running low on groceries,” says Snyder. “You can save money by shopping these in bulk online or at co-ops.” In addition to healthy grains and seeds, consider coconut milk and curry pastes. “I always keep these on hand to whip up my favorite 15-minute dinner: a red Thai curry; simply add vegetables and your protein of choice, and you have a satisfying flavorful meal ready faster than delivery.” There are also protein and veggie pastas, which taste great and provide more fiber and protein compared to traditional pasta, as well as jarred wild sardines or anchovies that can supply a quick and convenient omega-3 packed protein source that can be added to various different dishes, says Marlowe.

Pay Attention to Oils

Olive oil, which is the most studied and has the most documented health benefits, is always a good choice. “It’s anti-inflammatory, high in antioxidants, and supports cardiovascular and brain health,” says Marlowe, who advises using virgin olive oil for low-heat cooking as it has a higher smoke point than extra virgin olive oil. Coconut oil, which is high in medium-chain-triglycerides (MCTs) that are believed to support healthy cognitive function, is a robust option for medium-heat cooking although it is higher in saturated fat. For high-heat cooking, avocado oil, which is loaded with heart-healthy oleic acid, has a high 520-degree Fahrenheit smoke point.

Season Simply

“Rather than using store-bought dressings and sauces, which are usually filled with refined oils and sugar, I encourage using simple ingredients in your kitchen to pack extra flavor into your meals,” says Snyder. To dress a fresh green salad, she suggests squeezing a lemon over it for kick of citrus and extra boost of Vitamin C to support immunity or mashing an avocado to add a creamy element of healthy fat, seasoning it with pink Himalayan sea salt. Another simple but satisfying way to add zest is with fresh herbs. “Adding cilantro, basil, and parsley into your dishes will level up their flavors while adding health benefits like detoxification, de-bloating, and digestive support.”

Steam or Stir-Fry

Steaming is widely considered the healthiest way to cook vegetables to help them retain the most nutrients. Just make sure you’re doing so carefully for optimal texture. “It’s important not to oversteam, as vegetables go from crisp and tender to inedible mush pretty quickly,” cautions Marlowe, who counteracts blandness when steaming by adding drizzles of olive oil and pinches of salt to the equation. It’s also a useful strategy for seafood as it retains the most nutrients and leads to a more juicy end product as opposed to baking. “Simply cook seafood en papillote or baked in a parchment paper tent, and you won’t want to cook it any other way,” she says. Another option, and one that tends to yield more savory dishes, is stir-frying. “By quickly searing veggies or meat in a small amount of oil, you end up with a more flavorful dish, which may mean you eat more vegetables,” she says.

Focus on Healthy Fats and Lean Proteins

While fats are a necessary part of the diet, it’s important to choose the right fats and also consume them in moderation. “Fats that spark inflammation and detract from our health primarily come from refined vegetable oils, which are found in a lot of packaged and prepared foods as well as fried food,” explains Marlowe. “These are what you want to avoid or greatly minimize.” Good sources of healthy fat include eggs, avocado, nuts, chia seeds, and healthy oils, such as olive, coconut, and avocado, which have anti-inflammatory benefits. There’s also fatty fish, such as salmon, trout, mackerel, and sardines, which are packed with heart-healthy omega-3s. Taking a similarly discerning approach to protein, which provides energy and supports brain function, is essential. If you eat meat, look towards high-quality grass-fed meats, seafood, and keep red meat to a minimum. “The source of the meat and the diet of the animal is important because it influences the healthfulness and nutrition of the meat,” explains Marlowe. “If possible, choose organic to avoid unnecessary antibiotics and artificial growth hormones.”

Eat Enough Fiber for Good Gut Health

A high-fiber diet is essential to keeping your digestive system balanced and your body functioning properly. While eating plenty of vegetables and high-fiber grains is an essential part of the equation, probiotic foods and supplements can help improve the diversity of bacteria in our gut microbiome. “To supplement gut health, I always recommend taking an excellent probiotic supplement every day,” says Snyder, whose Solluna Feel Good SBO Probiotic contains prebiotics, postbiotics and multiple probiotic strains of soil-based-organisms. There are also a variety of gut-health superfoods, including cultured vegetables like raw sauerkraut, which is loaded with probiotics for supporting the gut, and fresh ginger root to optimize digestion. “I’m a big fan of having foods for gut health on hand in your kitchen at all times,” says Snyder.

Pay Attention to Portion and Plate Ratio

“When you’re stuck at home, it’s easy to keep paying visits to the fridge and pantry,” says Snyder. “Before you know it, you’ve been grazing all day and have completely thrown portion control out the window.” One of Snyder’s tried-and-true strategies for healthy, portioned-out meals is batch cooking. “When I’m cooking batches of food, I always store it, pre-portioned, in separate containers,” she explains. “That way, when I reach for it next time, I know it’s the right amount.” When it comes to a ratio for portions of each food group, Marlowe asks that her clients think of their plate as a pie chart to achieve the “ideal plate ratio.” 50% of it should be vegetables, cooked or raw, and then 25% of the plate should contain protein, which amounts to about 3 to 4 oz of animal protein. “This is about the size of a deck of cards,” she says. The other 25% can be made up of healthy grains, or more vegetables if desired. Healthy fats, like olive oil, are used as a condiment on top or in cooking.

Lauren Valenti

Saturday 17 December 2022

30 Flirty Pickup Lines to Text Your Crush

 Wanna make 'em laugh? Try one of these.

The art of the flirty pickup line is a delicate one that, truthfully, can be hard to master. Pickup lines, when executed poorly, can feel cheesy and maybe even a little slimy, especially when they’re coming from someone you’re 100 percent not into. Sooo much of a flirty pickup line landing depends on the delivery and the receiver (because not everyone will vibe with your humor, and that’s okay!), and this is just the first line of your convo–your initial approach!

So we get it. It’s easy to feel nervous or uninspired when it comes to delivering the perfect flirty pickup line. But luckily, we know a thing or two about the modern dating game, and we’re here to provide you with all the inspiration you need to send your app match, crush, or hell, even your long-term committed partner of a billion years the right, non-creepy pickup line for whatever goal you want to accomplish. Whether you’re trying to land a date, initiate a sexy night in, or just let ‘em know they’re on your mind, here are the flirty pickup lines we recommend you save to your Notes app like, right TF now.

And remember: If you’re flirting via text, make sure this is someone who has expressed interest in you before or who you already vibe with. If you’re sending one of these to an app match, pick one that feels low-stakes and innocent–aka, not sexual. A pickup line that feels too forward can easily come on a smidge too strong, and at the end of the day, you want to make sure they’re consenting to receiving a sexy text. So play it safe unless you know for sure they’re okay with something a bit more risqué.

  1.If you’re here, who’s running heaven?

  2.On a scale of 1 to America, how free are you tonight?

  3.Send me a selfie so I can show Santa what I want for Christmas.

  4.If you were a fruit, you’d be a fine-apple. *pineapple emoji*

  5.Do you believe in love at first swipe or should I match with you again?

  6.I’m researching important dates in history. Do you want to be mine?

  7.My mom told me not to talk to strangers online, but I’ll make an exception for you.

  8.I’m new in town. Can you give me directions to where your date is tonight?

  9.Is your name Google, because you’re everything I’ve been searching for.

 10.I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together.

 11.I see me in your future.

 12.I bet you smiled when you saw my name pop up on your phone just now. 

 13.Let’s play a game! If I win, you take me out. If you win, I take you out. 

 14.Well, I texted you. What are your other two wishes? 

 15.So aside from taking my breath away, what do you do for a living?

 16.I’d like to take you to the movies, but they don’t let you bring in your own snacks.

 17.I believe in following my dreams. Can I have your Instagram?

 18.I can’t see you right now, but I bet you look great.

 19.Can I save you in my phone as “future loml”?

 20.Can you send me a selfie? I just want to show my mom what my future partner looks like.

 21.Do you have a name you want me to save you as in my phone or should I just put “mine”?

 22.So I already got your number, what’s next?

 23.Is it just the WiFi? Or am I totally feeling a connection?

 24.Do you believe in love at first text or should I text you again?

 25.Are you Siri? Because you autocomplete me.

 26.I tried to send you something flirty, but I couldn't fit in the text box.

 27.I had to remove my space bar so I could get closer to you.

 28.Greetings and salivations.

 29.I guarantee you, I’m not flirting with you. I’m just being extra nice to someone who’s extra attractive.

 30.Are you a keyboard? Because you’re just my type.


Syeda Khaula Saad and Veronica Lopez